Anxiety

Hi, I hope you are all okay? I know people post this stuff all the time, but just recently I feel so anxious about my pregnancy at the moment and what’s going on. I’m 30 weeks now, and I’m just finding it really hard having no proper updates because we don’t get scans after 20 weeks (unless there is a specific reason). I know this is NHS policy, but it’s just really hard as 20 weeks is such a long time without knowing what’s actually happening inside! I know I could get a private scan, but I just wish we could have something additional with one of the hospital team as reassurance and also to make sure that everything still looks good - the mental toll on us girls with all the added hormones just feels like torture sometimes. There wasn’t really any point to this message! Just using you all as therapy 😂, so I’m sorry if this comes across as moaning but just wanted to know that I’m not the only person who feels like this 🤍
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Doesn’t come across as moaning at all, I completely understand and can relate. It’s not a nice feeling at all. But my anxiety has taken me to triage multiple times 🫣 and I’ve ended up getting a scan that way and I’ve ended up going for multiple private scans too. But the reassurance for me doesn’t last very long and I’m back to feeling anxious and desperately wanting a scan or something to make sure everything is ok’

This is exactly how I feel! I think midwives appointments are pointless to be honest - just a tick box of urine, blood pressure, stomach measurement (but only recently) and Doppler (if you ask!), but other than that I have no idea if everything is as it should be or not! It’s just so much pressure that I don’t think is fair, I know nothing will ever change but I just wish we had another anatomy scan at 30 weeks just as a check in. I hope you’re doing okay, sending lots of love!

I couldn’t agree more. I sometimes feel like the midwife appointments are a waste of time tbh because I’m like I just want to know everything is ok in there and you can’t tell me that. I didn’t get a stomach measurement on my 25week one so wonder if il get one at my 28 week one (tomorrow). I think it’s really unfair. Basically if you have no issues, which is great, you’re supposed to just go almost 20 weeks without having a look in or a check in. Likewise sending you lots of love and hugs! Xx

@Safina I didn’t get measured at my 25, but did at my 28/29 week so you should get that tomorrow!! Keeping everything crossed for you! X

I don’t feel this way at all, because I can feel him moving! Before I felt him move I was constantly worried something might be wrong / he might have died etc and needed constant scans to rest my mind Now I can feel him moving every day I have literally zero desire for a scan! What could a scan tell you that feeling of movement cant ?

@Elle that makes sense and it makes sense why you would feel like that. But for me, my health anxiety takes the driver seat and I just have to know. I also went to triage for one thing and the midwife measured me and said I was measuring small so referred me for a scan - depsite movement being ok. And it turned out the baby is actually on the bigger side and I’m now being tested for GD. Xx

@Elle totally get this, but movement doesn’t tell me the baby’s heart and brain are developing correctly, or all of the baby’s limbs and body etc are growing at the rate they should be! Movement is great, but it doesn’t tell you anything health wise x

Ah fair enough! I don’t worry about those things after all was fine on 20w anatomy scan. Which is mad considering how ridiculously anxious I was the whole 1st tri ! 🤣

I never had anxiety before pregnancy but now it feels constant! I have another scan at the end of October where I’ll be 35 weeks,this was automatically booked in for me but I wasn’t told there was any issues so I’m unsure why I have an extra one. I thought 3 were routine! I have a midwife appt this week so will raise it then! Thank you for sharing everyone

@Lexie yeah I’ve had a 36 week one scheduled as well. They said it was just a final routine one that’s offered’

You girls are so lucky, I don’t get anything past 20 weeks with my trust!

Do you have anymore midwife appointments coming up? Perhaps you could explain the anxiety you’re feeling and see if they could refer you for one. No harm in asking! Xx

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