Mom guilt

It really depends on how you feel about it. I didn’t feel comfortable at that age, but my sister did and she left her LO with my mum and I for that period of time. He was fine. In a lot of ways it’s easier at that ages because they don’t suffer so much from separation anxiety, at least that’s my experience.

Yea up to you, if you're comfortable I don't see the problem

Not too early, as long as you are comfortable! You need time to yourself to recharge and be a better mom. We did an experiment around 3 months where we went on a weekend trip, but with my parents in the same hotel and a few floors down with our baby. We got to have the time to ourselves but she was still nearby if we needed to see her. Could you do an overnight at grandma's before the trip, with baby, just to see how it goes? Let grandma take care of them, but stay overnight for peace of mind. You get the break and it will help you feel better about leaving them at grandma's on the trip, because you'll see for yourself they're taken care of. Win-win.

Strictly from an early childhood psychology perspective, it is too early :( Some babies will cry at the separation but others won’t. Even if they don’t cry, they are in a heightened state of stress but just can’t express it. That being said it depends on who has been taking care of baby the most or might be baby’s “primary” person.

For me it would have been.

It depends how much time grandma spends with baby normally. When I had my baby, my mum stayed with us for a few months, so she knew the routine inside out and baby was as comfortable with her as she was with me.

It’s not for me. If you trust your mother to take care of them then I don’t see the issue.

For me- way to early! I just went out for dinner last weekend for the first time with some girlfriends. My youngest is a year now, I was gone from lunch until 9:15pm when I got home as I was meeting my friends an hour away. My husband initially got her down to sleep but on my drive home she kept waking looking for me every 10 min or so he said- wanting to nurse (I normally nurse/rock her to sleep everynight). I got home as quick as I could. Do whatever you feel is best & whatever works for you!!

@Amina do you have evidence that leaving a child with a trusted caregiver at 3 months is psychologically damaging? This comes across as really guilt trippy. If you personally feel it's too early that's up to you, but that's your opinion, not fact.

@Amina most countries only have 3months maternity leave. Moms have to go back to work. Show me the study that says it causes high stress to the baby.

@Feriel I agree. She comes across as guilt trippy like @Melissa said. I mean, most women have to go back to work, so even if it’s not overnight it’s still 4-10 consecutive hours. And babies don’t really have a regular circadian rhythm at that age yet do they? So what’s the difference between daytime and night ? I understand this is 2-3 days so that’s more than one shift at work. But still. It’s not like it’s a month or even a week…

Also, at 3 months, babies don't really understand they are an individual and separate from their mother, and there is no object permanence. Separation anxiety doesn't really start to kick in until around 4, 5, or 6 months, when they realize you can walk away from them and still exist when you leave the room. They generally aren't going to cry because you left - they might feel a vague sense of unease with an unfamiliar caregiver, but if the caregiver is familiar and all their needs are being met, young babies generally won't care who's feeding them or changing their diaper.

My MIL takes care of him at least 4 hrs everyday and she lives right next to me, so he know her. I was just worried it might affect him emotionally, but then again I start work next month and he’ll be with her 8 hrs everyday. I’m more worried about the sleeping over part.

She takes very good care of him btw.

Personally for me, it would feel too early. I wouldn't unless my baby was at least 9 months old and showed signs that she could handle me being gone for a few days.

I think that’s really for you to decide. I think it would make alot of sense to feel a little “guilty” going, but could these be an opportunity for you to stretch yourself and go do something for you? If you think you’ll go and be miserable, maybe you’re not quite ready yet. But if you think you’ll go and enjoy yourself then it could be worth it!