Yes.. it’s been my husband and I for 11m now ..
Honestly i think the expectations to have them there like it’s an obligation and your mum should or has to is wrong. If they help great if not it’s not their responsibility. Your mum is getting old shouldn’t you be looking after her maybe she needs her little girl. The child is yours, yours and your partners responsibility no one else’s so no need to get angry at them
Yes my mother has seen our daughter maybe 5 times and she’s almost 8 months old. We have always had a strained relationship but I thought it might change when baby arrived. She takes care of my sisters children 3/4 times a week. I feel your pain! Sending love and strength 💗