Coping as a solo parent

So I’ve been a solo parent since birth, I’ve been challenging at times however recently I’m finding it harder. As my little one gets older (she’s 8 months) and isn’t moving yet. I find I literally have time to do nothing other than look after her. I barely have a chance to eat or go to the toilet / shower. Let alone have any time for myself to do things other than basic maintenance of myself 😅 I never have chance to do anything I enjoyed doing or pursue any of my former hobbies. I feel like I don’t know who I am anymore or what I like to do etc. Part of me feels mega selfish for even saying that because I know being a mum comes with a huge sacrifice and I feel guilty for even having those feelings of wanting a break etc. Anyway enough rambling basically I want to know if anyone has any tips, advice of coping skills on how to handle the day to day. Or when you’re feeling overwhelmed what do you do/ how do you cope etc? thanks for any advice!
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I don't really have any hints or tips as I too am in the same position. My little one is 9months. Now that I'm back at work I get a little bit of my former identity back and a little time to myself but I do find that I'm exhausted in multiple ways now lol. Being a mum does come with huge sacrifices but most new mums still get to do things they did before. Don't feel guilty that you miss it and want a break. She will be on the move soon and it does make a huge difference. My little one has been crawling a couple weeks now and it's made things a little easier. Now that's she's crawling though I am a bit scared to leave her anywhere so she often comes to the bathroom with me lol. I shower when my little one is sleeping and do what ever housework I can at night where possible so I can have some me time during the day. I personally love swimming and being in the water so I've found taking my little one to swimming lessons something that we can both enjoy plus she's shattered after it and usually has a good nap

I'm a solo mum by choice and my 11yr old and 16m old are DC I'm finding it hard atm as the weather is colder, its not as fun going out but get cabin fever when stuck indoors I had hobbies I loved but can't do with a toddler around and it's just us 24/7

My daughter is now 13 months, things haven’t changed much for me since i started feeling the same as you, but getting out even just for a walk helps, I have started to do all my personal care stuff with her, so for example when I have a shower while she sits in the tub, I just get her involved with as much as I can so when she naps I can just chill out or do something for me, it does get easier with time and you do adjust to how crazy life is now x

My sons now 2. When you shower bring them into the room get a little seat that’s age appropriate to them give them toys or a snacky food if there over 6months and do a quick shower, but leave the door open a jar and window (if there is one) to stop it getting too steamy. Eat with them. Set there meal times and have those as yours. (Still do this now) Going to the toilet I would set up a seat outside the room diaganol so they could look into the room at me as well as into the hallway. Don’t do snacks but toys work well. I’ll try find pictures of chairs I used. X Obviously when in shower make sure any straps are used to keep little one from moving out x

My baby is only 10 weeks and honestly doing this alone feels cruel. I see women on other groups on here talking about how their partners... Some good, some not so much... But they at least have someone to tag in and out with. My daughter is so clingy and had viral meningitis at 4 weeks... Since then all she's wanted is to be held and comforted. I'm just beyond exhausted and so emotional. Also struggling with PND and my ex saying he wants full custody. He's no help or support. If anything hes making things harder. And I just wish I had a partner to share the load with and to be able to take care of my own basic needs such as eating and washing! All I'm wanting some time to reset and I feel guilty for it! I think women doing this alone are incredible. I never expected to be in this position so soon after having my baby. And never truly considered how difficult and string women facing it alone are. So no advice! Just complete solidarity in your feelings!

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