Loneliness

26+4 weeks pregnancy, the loneliness and anxiety is really hitting me. In the first trimester, probably because she’s our rainbow baby, a lot of friends and family messaged checking in on us and wanting to catch up etc. Now … very few want to talk or catch up. Try to arrange meet ups and they all get cancelled or rearranged. It’s left me suddenly feeling very lonely. Before pregnancy I battled with anxiety, and with this being a pregnancy after loss, this pregnancy has come with a lot of anxiety. I contacted my GP who referred me for therapy but they’re not interested in seeing me because they don’t deem my case serious enough. I’m now feeling super low, anxious, and lonely a lot of the time. I’ve had physical ill health throughout this pregnancy so far which adds to all of this and honestly I’m drained. How do others cope? Is there a light somewhere in all of this? At the moment I feel like my only support 100% of the time is my partner, and now I feel like I’m straining our relationship with how angry and upset I am about all of this.

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Hey hunny, I’m sorry to hear that you are feeling this way. If it makes you feel better I totally feel the same and understand where you are coming from. I dont want you to feel alone! I’m currently off work on sick as I’m suffering with anxiety and find work too stressful and overwhelming on top of how I’m feeling! I see you’ve suffered with the physical effects too! That’s also been me, suffering with nausea and vomiting. It does feel very lonely at times and like everyone is just getting on with their life and forgetting about you but I’m trying to remember that this feeling is temporary and it will all change in a matter of time. I’m sure your partner is understanding and is happy to support you through anything so I wouldn’t worry too much about straining the relationship. The whole process is hard and having your partner by your side makes everything feel easier. I had a miscarriage in March too and I can totally relate to this! If you ever want to chat I’m here xxx

@Emily thank you so much for your response 💕 it would be lovely to chat! It’s such a difficult thing to go through isn’t it, and I definitely understand the being off work sick, I’ve only just returned to work after having 2 weeks off sick. Xx

Hello to both of you @Jemma and @Emily . I’m sorry that you feel anxious and lonely. But you are not alone. Most of us went through a lot of difficulties during pregnancy, changes in our body, in our friends and our relationships, our lives etc. it feels overwhelming, but hopefully it will get better after your baby is born. I’m afraid I can’t promise that it gets any easier 😅 but at least the love and cuteness will give you the power to keep going and get over sleepless nights and other challenges. Keep up and stay strong. Please remember, this shall pass. But also if you can, please try to speak to a counsellor. You have priority because of the pregnancy. So keep pushing to get what you need! Take care of yourself! Hope everything goes well ❤️❤️

@Shadi Thank you so much for your kind message 💕

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