Pregnancy loneliness

Yes! Since i’ve been pregnant the 2 people i considered really close friends haven’t supported me or asked me how i am or anything basically disappeared! It was always me reaching out to them and asking how they are and if they wanted to make plans etc so i stopped to see what would happen and we haven’t spoke since but im at the stage where ive gone past caring they are clearly not as good as friends i thought so im better off without them. When i was 8 weeks pregnant we all went to a concert in a different country booked an air b&b and everything before i found out i was pregnant still decided to go and enjoy as i thought im with the girls i dont need alcohol to enjoy. Well they both got absolutely steaming forgot that i was even there and kept disappearing for hours on end so i was sat there on my own all night pretty much so decided to leave at 10 at night to try and find my way back to the air b&m by myself. I would never dream of treating a friend this way 🤢 🧐

I even addressed how i was feeling like a spare part at the time at least twice and that i felt they kept wondering off and leaving me by myself and then when id finally had enough and told them i was going as i wasn’t enjoying the night they gaslighted me asking “why didn’t you say anything?” 🧐🧐🧐

@Jessica This!! It's always me reaching out and making the effort and it's so draining. I'm so sorry they treated you like that as well that's awful!! I've had it happen with a friend that's had a child herself, when she was pregnant I was always messaging asking how her and baby were doing, since she's had the baby I've reached out regularly but it never seems reciprocated. It feels so one sided and I've always ignored it until now because we've been friends since high school. I've even had my sister decide she wants nothing to do with me since I've been pregnant and she won't say why despite being so close growing up. It's so draining and It feels so hard making friends as an adult

Its crazy isn’t it how as soon as you tell them your pregnant a switch flips and their behaviour totally changes! I feel exactly the same! i haven’t spoken to them for a few weeks now because i stopped being the one to initiate plans and conversations. Whats worse is one of these girls has a child herself too so im sure if the shoe was on the other foot and it happened to her she would feel the same way i did! I totally understand, perhaps start taking baby to parent and child groups and you will make friends there

I noticed that people don’t connect with you the same or it’s a token invitation to events. But, keep reaching out and look for mum friends. I’ve met (in-person) two expectant mums from this app - pregnant and post. Definitely reach out just like you did here and be proactive to find new friends or join groups. Not alone.

@Jessica it really is like a switch has flipped and I don't get it, it's so bizarre! I might have to once baby's here, it just feels like it's going to make the last stretch of pregnancy so difficult since I'm not due until the very start of next year🙃 glad it's not just me that's experiencing this, as awful as it is!

@Gillian glad I'm not alone with this! Definitely hoping I'll be able to make friends through this app so it's reassuring that you've had some success

Your welcome to message me if you ever need a chat☺️

@Jessica thank you so much

I completely relate to this, I’ve also got a small circle and to be honest it’s also come to realising that maybe they are also unsure how to adjust in terms of plans and what we can do that now I’m heavily pregnant tbh I can’t do much anyway. Loneliness really is a huge thing in pregnancy that needs to be talked about more I think. If you ever need someone to talk to, feel free to message me ☺️ xx