Just why?

I hate comments like this soooo much!! Especially in the early stages if you are excited to hit a milestone like 12 weeks etc, and people comment “well I miscarried at 13 weeks so be careful” like ?!?! Not down playing the hurt they must have felt as it’s truly awful, but is scaring an already anxious pregnant person the right way to go about it? 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

People often relate by sharing their own stories, because they also want to be heard to some extent. At the same time, sometimes it helps to know that all pregnancies are unique and not one looks the same, even in the same person. It’s not about comparing or sharing an opposite experience; pregnancy is a beast. Weight gain as a whole is a sensitive subject; but especially with pregnancy, just as “too much” can be detrimental, “too little” can also be harmful.

I have commented about my lack of weight gain before, in fact I lost a stone during my pregnancy (due to health issues). I've not done it to be smug because it was a worrying time for me in general but it can still be nice to know you're not alone in worrying about weight as a whole. I did actually make a post at the time about weight loss and people were commenting about their weight gain, while their experience was slightly different, we were still worrying about the same thing.

Irritating but don’t let it bother you. I never even weighed myself in my pregnancies because I genuinely didn’t care if I put weight on which I did. Look at what I’m creating and growing 🥰

Those that have clicked “they’re trying to help 😅”, how do you think it helps exactly? Genuinely curious at what you believe can be achieved other than making the mum/mum-to-be feel shitty about themselves, especially when they comment “I’m probably the worst for sharing this but…”

This is a platform where we can all share our experiences.. she was sharing hers, you don’t have to like it x

Depending on the post/question I do think some people just love to be smug. I saw a post recently about a woman who lost all her friends during pregnancy and how knowing checked on her. Some other person commented saying you should probably get better friends, my friends checked on me all the time. Sometimes I just think if you can’t relate don’t comment..

I don't think that its a case of those trying to help the individual who posted. I think that they're possibly needing some reassurance themselves🤷🏼‍♀️ I didn't agree with any options to be fair. A lot of none pregnant people (or maybe those who have never experienced pregnancy) seem to think that they have the 'right' to comment on pregnant bodies. Quite often this leads to insecurities, regardless of how much weight has been or not been gained. I do think that for those who are pregnant, its more about finding support & comfort in those who are also going through it.

If they were maybe worried about their little weight gain I can see why they would comment. If they were just bragging, then I can see your point.

The ones that bother me most are when moms are worried about their baby hitting milestones and another mom is like “well my baby could walk at use full sentences at 6 months because they’re a prodigy”

It's totally lack of social awareness. Or they're just narcissists. So annoying.