Feeling very lost

We are 5 days pp and I am so lost. I feel like I prepared so well, read every book, listened to all the podcasts etc. and now I can’t even get my head around what kind of schedule were meant to have with baby. It’s like I know absolutely zero, running on pure instinct (which makes me feel like I’m wrong at every turn). My partner is amazing at keeping me grounded, but I think both of us feel completely out of our depth 😅. I considered posting this anonymously but I think I just need some support from mums going through the same pp baby blues and anxiety, and any second time mums who can tell me when and how it gets better 😭 Anyone around north London and wants to have a WhatsApp group to support each other? I feel like a text at 3am to confirm no one else is sleeping either would make me feel less crazy. 😂

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Honestly no book, podcast, can prepare you for getting your baby home and being left to look after it. It's a massive massive shock to the system and no one knows what to do. Trust me we're all in the same boat, just completely winging it! You are not alone and it will get easier. It may take a while but a routine will come and you'll feel like you've found your feet abit. X

What you're feeling is so so normal. Felt like it with our first, my husband and I sat and cried at the end of Christmas day (baby was a few weeks old) as we were so overwhelmed. It does get easier and it does get more enjoyable. These early days are tough. Don't look for routine yet, but if it helps you feel more in control, introduce a gentle bed time routine etc but don't pressure yourself. I've just had my second 4 days ago and it's a very different story this time round, as you know what to expect and you know everything is just a phase. It's pure survival at this stage!

There is no schedule yet, trust me. With my first I drove myself crazy trying to have a schedule at the start, it will come in its own time (around 7 months with my first). For now I'm just aiming for us to get up 7-8am, then follow a day of wake, nappy change, feed, sleep and repeat. I just follow wake windows until we can do a schedule but even wake windows are non-existent for us so far. Then we are trying to start a bedtime routine but he tags along to his sister's atm as I have no idea when he'll actually be ready to go down for the night yet. It is chaos and survival but it will get easier.

Week 3 and no routine in sight! We’re just following what baby wants, it’s feed eat sleep repeat round here! I try my best to sleep when he sleeps; and put the housekeeping on the back burner to enjoy the newborn snuggles! Don’t stress it, all the little ones want right now is food, warmth and snuggles 😘

I could have written this myself! 🫶🏽 Been feeling so low and stressed, crying every day, feeling so gloomy and down. I absolutely LOVED pregnancy and never felt happier. I also read loads of books and did postpartum course to know what to expect. Nothing could prepare me for these feelings. It's the stupid shift in hormones, nonstop feeding, caring for our sweet babies and lack of sleep. Normal to feel drained and upset. But I also feel so lonely and I still got husband on paternity and just dreading when he goes to work and I'll be left alone.

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