Holidays- Is it just me?

I'm 37 years old and haven't really been a huge fan of this time of year. My mother passed away when I was 16 and my father is just now establishing a relationship with me just this past year. My family let me down when my mother passed without much support at all. I put myself through college and have a 13 year old son in which I am a single mother. Needless to say, I'm not a fan of being around my family. I love them but have learned to love from a distance. To keep my spirits high I typically take a trip either Thanksgiving weekend or Christmas weekend ( have a court order with my son's father and we alternate holidays each year). This year I have Christmas break with my son and Thanksgiving to myself. For Thanksgiving I'm in the process of looking for flights ( I love solo travel it's so peaceful). Needless to say, I create new memories with the people that matter to me, rather than waiting around hoping someone would be a village for my son. I'm working on building my own village 🫶🏾

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I’m not even in my 30s but I can relate to a lot of what you said.

@Mollz💌 Thank you for commenting! You got this life thing in the bag ☺️

If I'm being honest... I've always hated Thanksgiving. My whole family together in one place never tends to work out well. I've realized that creating new memories with the family I've created instead of doing the whole family works out better for everyone involved. Creating and keeping boundaries was a goal I needed in my 30s and looks like you're killing it. Love that you are traveling too! That's a dream I've been working on. The holiday season is whatever and wherever you're happiest.

I love your mindset! We don’t really have any family in our lives either, so holidays can feel lonely. I don’t really like Thanksgiving either, but for Christmas we’re trying to establish new traditions and make lots of memories with our kids. Celebrating in the way that brings you the most happiness and inner peace is where it’s at 😊

@Jamie It's weird because my family loves to party together but then not supportive of real life chronicles so I have been stepping back from birthday and family gatherings because it feels so fake to me. And thank you so much!! I've learned that traveling can start small. Just learning to enjoy your own company is the start( the movies solo, dinner, taking a walk etc..). Keep working towards your dream because it's a reality in the making❤️

@Rebecca You're so right ☺️. That's what the holidays are for, to see the light in our children's eyes filled with laughter and memories to come. I've reached the point of my life where I'm no longer working hard to be seen by my family. Cheers to new memories ahead ❤️

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