Left my relationship

Even simple stuff. What’s your fave type of music? I don’t know What’s your favorite color? I don’t know anymore. Favorite movie? I don’t know I was a victim for 11 years. I lost myself

I've been in a similar situation before, and I want you to know that it's absolutely possible to rebuild yourself into the version you truly love. This journey allows you to reflect on your values and what really matters to you, giving you the freedom to become whoever you aspire to be. I understand that this process can be challenging; I went through it in my early 30s myself. However, I can assure you that it has led to the most rewarding relationship I've ever had—with myself. You’re not alone in this, and with time and effort, you can create something beautiful.

Try this - I know it sounds easier than it is but instead of asking yourself what do I like? Ask yourself less questions as you will have had enough of that for a lifetime, questions asked of you and asking yourself questions. The mental stress has undoubtedly been unreal. Just put the music on, just step into nature and look up at the sky, sit on a bench and lean back and close your eyes and listen to the sounds, sink into a warm bath. Total immersion into stuff that can't hurt you. Be careful with social media and people who had his back/doubted you etc.

That's just a start! Hope it helps.

Amazing that you left! You found the strength and put yourself and your kids first. Celebrate that! Also take one day at a time and be kind to yourself. Maybe start to journal, do small things that bring you joy and peace, think about what you liked to do as a child. Follow each bread crumb and slowly you’ll find who you are again. It takes time but you can do it.

@Susan thanks. That was a really nice response. Something I needed to hear.

@Sophie thank you that really helps

You're welcome 😊 xx

You are welcome, give yourself a lot of grace!!!! It's not a linear process but you already made one of the hardest steps!

Since you’re starting new. Ask yourself if there’s something you wanna learn, or if there’s something other people know how to do/good at that you’ve always been envious of or wished you could do better or start doing, and now that you can, you can learn anything you want to. Or join a class or group for that. Watch more tutorials on it. Envy can be positive if you turn it into inspiration 🙃 Any movies your hear people talk of that you might wanna see etc. Music- listen to a whole range and see what you’re attracted to, what makes you happy.

It takes time but you’ll find yourself again. I started with wearing clothes that I liked, my previous partner controlled my wardrobe so just something so simple felt freeing. You’ll get there ❤️

This was me at a point and then I got into two minds, 1: silver linings 2: adventure time. For the first I had to find the joy in reinventing myself. Everything I didn’t know was a journey to be taken and the freedom to finally choose for myself. The second was more active. Every weekend for a while I would look up random things to do, FB events posted for local happenings. I’d pick one or two to try out. I went on hikes, I took classes, I picked up new hobbies and remembered old ones. I discovered aerial arts and WHEW! A whole life came from that alone and a freedom I never knew and community. I tried new food, met new people. It was an awakening in the end. You have to get lost to find yourself sometimes.