I’m about to loose my mind

When I was pregnant, my child’s father told me to get an abortion, but now he he loves his child. Throughout my entire pregnancy, he was horrible to me, and even after I gave birth, he continued to treat me poorly. On top of that, he constantly lied about being with other women. Every time I got angry or upset with him, he would accuse me of having bipolar disorder or claim I had mental health issues, even though he was the one driving me crazy. I’ve had to keep so much bottled up in my head because of how he treated me. Now, my sibling—who doesn’t even talk to him—claims I’ve had mental health issues since I was young, saying I explode and get so angry. But maybe that’s because I was treated differently from my siblings, and our mom was really abusive toward me. My sibling is now telling me I have bipolar disorder and need to see a therapist. Do I really have mental health issues, or am I just defending myself and being unfairly labeled?

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So your babies father is a dick! Let's just get that bit out the way first and foremost!!! And re your sibling maybe need a bit more context, why has this new info just come to light now? "Bi polar" and "spectrum behaviours" are just thrown out now like nothing - I mean if you are concerned that, that is the case go and speak to your doctor - do you feel like there are situations that you can't control?if so it's not a problem you can always get help! But to me it does sound like they are just winding you up and pissing you off royally and you are reacting as any normal pissed off human would!!!! Sounds more like gaslighting than bipolar to me!

@Francesca my sister does need context she doesn’t know nothing on how I was treated. I spoke to her yesterday it was the first time she opened up and told me how I am and I apparently supposed to ignore or communicate calmly even after someone done something really horrible to me.

@Francesca There was this one time she told me I had mental health issues because I got mad at my kid, even though I was completely exhausted. Like, I’m a single mom living with my family of 7, and since my child was born, no one’s ever offered to take him off my hands so I can have a break or even 5 minutes of “me time.” They can clearly see when I’m overwhelmed, but nope, nothing. One time, when my kid was about 9 months, he grabbed everything out of the cupboard and threw it all over the floor. I was so frustrated and I shouted at him—not even super loudly—and just told him no. Apparently, that wasn’t okay, even though I was doing everything alone and was totally overwhelmed. Was it fair for me to be labelled as having “mental health issues” just because I got mad? I know it wasn’t great, but still…

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