Unstable friend is pregnant.

I’m so worried I’m crying! A friend just told me she’s pregnant. Usually I would be delighted but this friend is addicted to weed and recently cocaine but not anymore. She’s isolated herself from friends and family, believes her family are against her, constantly flips out in anger shouting at people, drives like a mad person, doesn’t have a stable place to live, can’t keep a job for very long and believes they are a dark angel. I have been so worried about this friend for a while and now I’m worried about her baby. They are happy they are pregnant and think everything will be alright. Which really worries me. I don’t know what to do, or what to say to her without upsetting her.
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Oh blimey this sounds like a recipe for disaster. Sometimes having a baby is the wake up call people need though, as they have a baby solely dependent on them, it sort of forces them to grow up. How many weeks pregnant is she? Has she expressed what her plans are about work / living situation?

The best thing to do is give her time. Sometimes if you push too hard, it overwhelmes the person. The best thing to do is give them space. Having a baby heals people sometimes. It’s not worth ruining a friendship over.

You don’t do or say anything, I get wanting to as a friend and I’m sure it’s coming from a good place but at the end of the day she is grown and she is blessed with that baby for a reason. It’s not really your place to speak on that aspect of her life. Respectfully.

Just be there for her and gently urge her in positive ways when you can, that’s all you really can do

It sounds like she may have some mental health issues that she isn’t dealing with. There’s not much you can say beyond seeing if she’s open to talking to a doctor or someone about what she’s going through (the paranoia, anger, addiction, etc), you can phrase it in whatever way you think she would best receive such as “hey, I noticed you’ve seemed stressed lately, have you thought about talking to a doctor or therapist about it? I’ve heard that can be helpful”. I would use the word stressed as if she does seek professional help, they’ll evaluate and pick up quickly on any statements of paranoia, delusions and such that they can help her with. I would also make sure to let her know that you’re there as a support as she may need it more so when she has her baby. If there end up being any serious safety concerns for herself or the baby that you notice, please contact whoever necessary (police, crisis line, CPS). ❤️

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