@Heather 🌻 thank you. She is my first and I appreciate my parents for being part of my village, taking her on Saturdays when momma needs a few hours to breathe. But I definitely feel guilt because my ex never helped out so she’s always been with me 24/7. I know when I need it when I start feeling mentally exhausted. It’s really hard because my biological mom never was a mom so I am doing everything in my power to be an amazing mom.
If you keep your body and mind busy when they’re gone we don’t really have time to miss them. My sister took my boy a couple days ago coz we’ve just settled in and I had to unpack and clean up, I was moving the whole time and kept busy and tried to do what I could while he was gone. When I go out, I’m eating, drinking, chatting, dancing- I don’t have time to miss him until I get in the car and drive home which if I come home around midnight he’s asleep till morning anyway. Go get your hair done, nails, massage. Clean, invite a gf and have some drinks, keep yourself busy and do things for yourself, things that is easier done when no kids are around. If they take your daughter on Saturdays then plan the day for yourself and keep busy, that way you have something to look forward for yourself too instead of dreading the day she’s gone.
@Kellie my bf and I usually use Saturdays as our cleaning, grilling day. So I did keep busy today. Got the room and laundry done. Only friend I have besides my bf is his cousin who did keep me busy. I unfortunately don’t get my nails or hair done.
I hate that feeling 😞 for me it's relief and guilt rolled into one.
@Michaela she’s been to her grandparents plenty of times but never felt this way about it.
Welcome to motherhood. :) A lot of us find ourselves there, almost like we feel guilty for needing some time away, even for a moment to just breathe. Just breathe, sweet momma. It’s rough, but it changes. :)