I'm struggling

I love my daughter obviously and I love being a mum but recently I don't want to do it. I'm a single mum with no help from friends or family really, Im very isolated so don't have friends to meet with my daughter but I never have any time away from her to have me time or go to exercise classes or go on a date, I do nothing for myself and she's now 2. I feel like it is pulling me into a depression again and I don't really know what to do about it.

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Would you trust a babysitter?

@Lauren I'm not sure, because I don't know how trust worthy they are now a days x

Same but if you get one that’s registered and has good reviews it could be an option! Especially when she gets older because she’ll be able to express if anything’s dodge x

I’m in same position so I understand. It’s really hard and one can be busy all day every day. I’m learning to find joy in his milestones, share cuddles and laughter together- these boosts ones happy hormones too. I recently found a similar a registered babysitter via childcare.uk. She’s not me but I feel comfortable leaving my baby at her house for few hours when I need to do things without baby or take care of myself. I hope you find something that works for you Good luck dear.

I’ve also used childcare before. Zero family or support. Have had to put LO in nursery previously but then we moved and now on waiting list for nursery on our new area. But just getting some very few afternoon sessions a week back to being able to be me helped mental health immensely. We’re in a different situation at the moment so have used the childcare website / app and really did some searching for ones with qualifications / reviews on there. But ultimately I’m hoping to build on a mum and baby network around us in our newly moved area so can help each other out. As I have literally no one unless I pay for it. It gets depressing at times. The weekends kill me, as everyone’s with their families or partners. Literally wish them away most times when I’ve not got something planned with friends 🙈

Childcare.co.uk - I’m sure you know of it already but qualified child care professionals who also offer baby sitting. Have you tried exercising with your daughter, running with a pram, if mat work and get her involved? Any exercise will def help with mental health.

@Sarah I do try and go to the gym when I'm not at work and she's still at nursery but it's not often, i could maybe run I think I need to get out

I completely understand, I’m currently navigating how to do this all as well at the moment. I always think back now when I just use to head to the gym whenever I damn wanted 😂

@Sarah this. The ‘whenever you want’. To do anything 😆 literally. That’s a thing of the past haha

@Sarah I used to go everyday 😭😭 not so much anymore

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