Everything feels like it’s just crashing down fast. I need to vent
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If not your husband or family, try to find someone you can tell your true feelings to. A friend, an old coworker, a therapist, a regular hairdresser... it's good to have someone who hears you over time, can tell when you're struggling, and suggest when it's time to make a change. 6mo postpartum is hard, especially during a reno. You're caring for baby all day, your husband has no idea what's going on, nobody's sleeping... it does get better. Postpartum depression in men is real, even if you also have it, and even if yours is worse. You can both be depressed. You can both be overwhelmed. Try to find solace in each other rather than making it a competition. See if you can have someone come visit you. You can pay for their flights. Sometimes it's just important to see a friendly face. 🙂
A new baby puts a lot of stress on a couple. My relationship began crashing at 4 months pp. I genuinely felt like I hated my partner I wanted nothing to do with him. We began spending an hour at night listening to one another and clearing out any type of negative emotions towards one another. I also have so many friends that felt this way as well and are currently doubting their relationship. I’m sorry you’re having a hard time. It sounds you’re carrying a heavy mental load! I’m a stay at home mom with no support from family or friends. My husband works 12 hour shifts so it’s me at home 99% of the time with my little one and I feel like I’m drowning sometimes & It’s hard to express myself most days. It’s okay to be overwhelmed and you’re such a strong momma pushing through for your little one! I keep thinking everything is going to get better and life will be a bit less lonely when our littles can talk and interact with us more. So many fun things to look forward to!
I think it’s normal to feel overwhelmed and stressed because all your love and attention and energy goes to the baby- I’m 6m pp too I find myself getting so easily offended and angry at husband because when I am frustrated about baby not sleeping or whatever it is I can’t do anything about it so it just explodes. That being said communication is the best way to solve this. Vent is good but to resolve have a rational and productive conversation with husband about finances and where you are at. If you have to take a break from Reno’s then that’s okay, do it or whatever works for you guys. But try to find a solution because the stress and anxiety about money won’t go away etc. We in the same boat💙