Terrifying accident

The fact that you even feel like this proves that you're not a terrible mum at all. Accidents happen all the time and will probably happen again so please remind yourself that it's not your fault. You are doing amazing 💜

I’m sure it will happen to most mums in good time! They are so wriggly at this age! You’re being hard on yourself because of how you’re feeling. Toddlers bounce. This age is the hardest yet for me, and it’s easy for those thoughts to creep in, despite us keeping our little ones going! How is your support network? It sounds like you could do with someone to vent to? If not then maybe someone professional, just to get things off your chest? I was feeling low and contacted the women’s centre, they prioritised me because of me having a little one (their rules not me asking), worth a shot to help you feel a bit better? I’m sure you’re doing just fine, like the other poster said, the fact that you feel like this proves your a good mum 💛 sending you a love xx

Accidents happen!! They are sent to test our sanity & you are not failing as a mum at all you need to talk though it’s not healthy to feel like this I hope you have a support bubble around you I’m so glad he is okay and I hope you are too xx

If it helps, my son was just running along the sofa and went head first over the arm of the sofa. Landed on his head. I honestly thought he’d broken his neck or something. Please try not to worry, they are nightmare at this age. With my first son we were always in a&e with some kind of injury. They can’t always be prevented. You’ve done nothing wrong and you aren’t a terrible mum. Be kind to yourself. Would you tell me I was a terrible mum for letting my son fall off the sofa? No. So don’t be unkind to yourself xx

@Stephanie thank you. I just feel like it was so avoidable. I shouldn’t have had him on the worktop at all, it was stupid .

@Aimee they are. But knowing that I shouldn’t have had him on the worktop at all. It was stupid. I don’t really have a support network. The paramedics were really helpful and have tried to set up a referral for me to get some support but I’m not sure anything will come of it. I am struggling. I keep reaching out for help but either being told I don’t qualify, there’s nothing suitable or falling through the cracks xx

@Vicky I just feel like I’m failing him in so many ways and this is just the latest example. I don’t really have any support. The paramedics have tried to put a referral in for me but not sure what will come of it. I’ve been trying to get help for months now and it just isn’t happening xx

@Lauren I know these things happen but I shouldn’t have had him on the worktops at all. It was stupid. I feared he had a brain injury or broken back or neck. Thankfully he has none of these. Falling off the sofa is nowhere near as bad as the kitchen worktops xx

@Jane I do need a break but unfortunately there is no one else who can step in. Going and staying with my mum isn’t an option. I am stretched too thin, trying to do too many things at once and that’s exactly how it happened. I reached for a wipe so only had my hand sort of propping his back up rather than fully holding him and it wasn’t enough to catch him when he slid off. I have seen those, they do look really good but I can’t afford one. I was thinking of just using a step up stool but then that doesn’t prevent him falling. I just feel like this is a mistake I shouldn’t have made xx

There are and will be more mistakes we could have avoided but we didn’t - so we learn. Once you can calm your nerves maybe put him in a playpen etc and have a cup of camomile tea etc to calm down. Put some calming music on the tv. Have a moment of gratitude - that it is being taught through just a lesson and nothing more. The right step up stall is far less of a fall so worth it. Facebook market place might have cheaper ones. Stay grateful mama - you’ve got this 💕

I know someone who's baby was in a bumbo on the worktop and it toppled off onto the hard floor. The baby was only a few months old but was fine You're not the only one. All my 3 kids have fallen off beds before.

Aw I'm so sorry you feel this way, you're only human and I'm convinced being a mum requires some kind of super human power 😵‍💫 It's so hard when we are the ones alone with them all day everyday, we need 2 sets of eyes and hands! I'm so glad your boy is ok. Motherhood is hard but your post shows how very much you love and care about your little boy. I never wanted to put my LG in nursery before 3yo but I so desperately needed a break that she is now in two afternoons a week government funded so I can get caught up with stuff and have a breather. Could you look into this? X

@Jane I’ve definitely taken a lot of learning from it. Unfortunately he hates being in a play pen. I’m so grateful he was ok. Thats a good idea about looking on Facebook market place, I’ll do that. Thank you x

@Becky it just feels so horrible. I feel I would have handled the bed better. Our bed isn’t even that high and the fall would have been on to carpet but seeing him fall like that from the height he did and on to hard flooring and the sound he made. I’ll never forget it.

@Jane it really does require super human powers and two sets of eyes and hands! I really do. I’m just so devastated this happened. But keep trying to focus on the fact he’s ok. Mine is already in two days a week but unfortunately due to other things going on in my life I don’t get a break on those days. I’m in a really stressful situation at the moment. It’s hard x