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^^ was about to say this. Redirection is key. Switch the flip in a positive way because kids can truly test you. But stay calm. Communication is big because they don’t understand and you have to teach them to try to understand
Firm redirection. And when I say firm I mean setting a hard boundary. You can’t be wishy washy with it. (I’ve done childcare/nannying since I was 16 and I’ve found this to be the most effective).
redirection and timeout. We use timeout w our older kids and it’s effective w him too, i only do two mins sometimes less lol
Connection, then redirection is what I do. The book No Drama discipline is a good resource.
we also do connection and firm redirection. yes, she cries she can’t get her way, but we soothe her and tell her we love her and soon enough she smiles and moves on to what she is allowed to do! :-)
Redirection when possible. But I make it known to my daughter when she is quite obviously being mischievous. I use a stern voice, and I don’t let her get away with ignoring me when she’s trying to ignore what I’m saying. I do this by physically coming down to her level and using touch contact on her shoulders, with eye contact so that she can be extremely present and engaged when I’m trying to tell her something important. Sometimes they’re just off in lala land, but I wouldn’t make it a habit for them to put your voice out in the back ground like white noise. My girl is very intelligent and speaks very well. So I feel comfortable talking things out with her and letting her know why we can’t do certain things. Other consequences might consist of leaving a store if they’re not behaving. If we have to take away a toy that she’s not playing nice with. Things like that.
@Trasonya what is “connection”?
@Erin Connection means focusing on building a strong, loving relationship so they feel safe and understood. It’s about guiding their behavior by meeting their emotional needs, setting boundaries, and using misbehavior as a chance to teach, not just punish. By providing emotional support, their downstairs brain(instinct and emotion) is able to be regulated, and their upstairs brain (logic) is able to tune in and learn what you're trying to teach them.
These comments make me so happy. You ladies are the best moms 🥰
@Lisa you too!!! 🥹💗
I think redirection is key when they’re super young tbh.