I think i’m gay but my partner doesn’t know…
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@Heather he’s fully accepting of lgbt people, i was friends with him whilst i had a girlfriend about 5 years back
Ah, so he knows your bi, but now you think you are lesbian and want to have that conversation?
@Heather yes and i feel so guilty
What makes you feel guilty?
@Heather because i’m still with him, if i tell him im gay he’s going to think i don’t like him and he’ll be hurt
Ah. So what do you want to happen? I asked because this is going to determine what you do or how you can structure that conversation. If you want to stay together but go down to a platonic relationship and allow each other to find that in outside sources. Or if you want to stay together and it not Impact anything. Or if it's the end of things for you.
You are going to hurt his feelings regardless. Because he cares for you and wants to be with you. But if he truly cares for you he would want you to be authentic to yourself. Loving someone is supporting them and accepting them for who they are. It’s not like you stopped caring for him just the love you have for him is different now and you both deserve to be with someone who loves you each for who you are.
If he's not treating you roght I'd work on that first before I'd be vulnerable and open up about my sexuality. How does he think/act around lgbt folks? Is he a safe space to come out to?