Insensitive husband

There have been a lot of changes with my pregnancy in the last couple of months- from what looked like early c section for placenta previa, to then one doctor telling me I was fine for vaginal labor, then another doctor wanting to do another ultrasound because they aren’t so sure, and then another curveball with fast dropping platete counts and possibly needing an induction. My husband, who doesn’t have to grow or birth this baby, keeps expressing his frustration that we have so many unknowns and how he was originally very excited to know exactly when she was coming via c section and to be done with work and on paternity by now. He makes little comments about it and it pisses me off so much. He will say the right thing first like “obviously I want what’s safest for you and the baby but…” I honestly think he would prefer me to have a scheduled c section at 37 weeks so that he could be done with work for paternity and so he could have the convenience of baby coming out in an hour procedure instead of the unpredictability of a vaginal delivery when baby decides it’s time. I just feel so distant from him because he has no idea how that feels to a pregnant person who has already been taking care of this baby for 9 months and who is dealing with physical discomfort. Just wanting to vent I guess and see if anyone can relate

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My man is praying I go into labor early just so he can be on Christmas break from school and not have to deal with a baby and finals. So he’s upset that I won’t elect for an induction if offered. He is mad that I have endless appointments but they won’t just induce me. He wants me done at 36/37 weeks so he’s on break and doesn’t have to take a “pause” in school

@Diana does it bother you or not really? I feel like my husband has no clue what it’s like to be the one who grows and births the baby and like he can’t see the big picture

Oh it 100% bothers me. I’m in pain so yes I’d love for baby to come before 40 weeks but don’t wish it bc you want it to fit your schedule.

I understand your frustration. With my first I got induced at 35 weeks because of growth restriction, but I had steroid shots leading up to that. It was a month early and we both were taken by surprise because I was going to be induced at 37 weeks. This time I'm extremely uncomfortable and we have a 3 year old, so I've been hearing my MIL (who we live with) nonstop telling me she wants me to have this baby anytime after Friday because she has the week off work. I'm due December 7, and while I'm in a ton of pain with contractions, pelvic pressure, and baby girls bottom pressed against my ribs causing my pain 24-7 unless I'm sitting in the right position I'm so over hearing her say that. While she is going to watch our 3 year old while I'm in the hospital especially if my parents are out of town, it's just annoying because even with my first she came unexpectedly. I understand your husband a little bit because that's a lot to juggle, have you told him that his comments are upsetting?

Yeah I’ve found men just don’t get it at all. Even if they try they just do not appreciate what we are going through and what’s best for mum/baby 🤦‍♀️ My hubby doesn’t care about any of my pregnancy concerns because ‘I’m the one who wanted a baby’ and ‘I’ll be perfectly healed and right as rain after I give birth’ 🤦‍♀️

Hmm, maybe having him watch birthing videos and c section videos or something, it seems this exciting yet somber time isn't being taken seriously. It's not just the fact that you don't know the delivery method, the concerns you have been having would make me feel like it's a high risk regardless of c-section or vaginal. Coming from someone who's had an induction turned emergency c, and a vaginal to follow, even with my 3rd on the way soon, my spouse and I are actually anxious for the delivery, yes we are excited for the bonding time, but we need to get to the point of delivery first.

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