Child support and custody battle

I’m stuck between taking child support and my BD leaving the state and going off to live his life while I suffer with the baby .And giving him custody of the baby , because he pressured me to have a baby and now we are ending the marriage after just a year of having the baby . So I wanna give him the baby because his mum lives with him so that’s a permanent nanny , so my son will be taken care of . He’s doing a lot better than I am financially and every way possible . And I feel like I want him to have his son for a while so I can fix my life . But I also feel guilty about the thought of leaving my son , I’m so confused 🥲💔

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Don’t feel guilty . If dad is safe and you genuinely feel he can take good care of the baby let him take over for now. Give yourself a chance to breath and get things together it doesn’t have to be forever

In my opinion it should be a 50/50 situation, but you know what is best for your child and your circumstances, go with your gut, hope everything works out for the best 🥰

Do NOT give up custody of your child unless you intend on not getting it back. It’s really hard to get back once given up. I respect you considering letting him take the baby full time so you can work on yourself but legally giving up custody is a big deal. Make sure you trust that he will work with you when you’re ready to take the baby part time. He could use this against you in the future and unfortunately a court will likely side with him if you willingly gave up custody. Maybe you can come to an agreement just between you that he takes him full time until a certain date and reevaluate then.

@Hannah thank you so much! This honestly helps

@Alyssa my family is saying same thing . Giving up custody of my own baby sounds like a nightmare . But yes I think you are right

This must be a really difficult time for you. I hope you make the best decision , and that it pays off eventually xxx

@Ese thanks so much❤️

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