I miss feeling pretty

I miss feeling pretty, even like 2 years after I had my first son I still felt pretty. Now I hardly feel pretty even with makeup on it’s hard to feel beautiful and I hate it. I constantly dye my hair in an attempt to build some confidence, which has really just damaged my hair and done nothing to boost my confidence. I suck at makeup even though I used to be so good at it, I hate the way all my clothes look on me. I feel like a blob. Like an ugly blob that slaps makeup on from time to time to try and feel like a pretty blob even when I know it won’t help. I also have no style, I have no clue what aesthetic I’d even fall into and I feel like I’d be embarrassed to chose one and look silly plus I don’t have money for a new wardrobe. Any tips on rebuilding confidence or something like that would mean a lot.

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Felt this to my core

Not sure if you do this already but try to have at least one day where you don’t have your kids around (if possible) that helped me a lot with my little one I go to the spa I clear my head I take a whole weekend off for my mental health as I also didn’t feel pretty at the beginning and am starting to now!

I just grew my hair ridiculously long and put on crop tops a lot so then I look like a hot girl at least from the back 😂😂😂

@Ashley I hate it because I used to feel so beautiful, I mean I get that we get older and our faces and bodies change but I feel like I look like a complete different person now and I hate it🙄

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@Rynara I don’t but that’s a good idea, I only have one person I trust/ is able to watch my kids and she lives about 3 hours or so away and works so she’s not been able to keep them for a weekend in I can’t even remember how long but we’ve been trying to work out a weekend when she can keep them. A spa sounds so nice😩

@Susie I bought a good bit of crop tops a while back to try and force myself into being more confident, it works at home but I’m to nervous to try to wear one out in public. If one single person was to look in my direction I might just cry even if they weren’t looking at me or being judgmental I feel like I’d assume they were 😅🥹

Bit random but If you live in the UK and close to London we could meet up and build up trust and I would happily help you!! I’m all about empowering women! I know how horrible/harsh we can be to ourselves🥰

@Rynara I wish I did🥲, I live in Georgia in the US. I think another issue I have is the fact I have no life outside of being a mom, I got pregnant with my first at 16 and had him at 17, I’m 24 now with my 7 year old and my 3 year old. Being a mom feels like all I’ve know from a young age and a long time

I feel you! I used to feel like a baddie and now my body is so different, nothing looks right on me. If you have the time and mental capacity, try to exercise regularly. Even a short home workout each night can make you feel stronger and more confident in your body. If you're wanting to lose weight, start being more mindful about what you're eating and your portion sizes. That being said, I know it's hard to focus on your health and self esteem when your life revolves around 2 little ones. If you're able to, spend a few hours away from your kids each week. If you have girlfriends, catch up with them and spend the whole time not talking about your kids. Or do something alone and out of the house that you love and makes you feel good. It helps me to feel like a person, not just my son's mother.

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