Relationship

I’ve been with my partner just over a year and we had our first child together she’s now 4 months old and I could never be happier . But there’s always something in the back of my mind that there’s something not right in the relationship it’s self . Now don’t get the wrong idea it’s not rape or anything but when we’re In hell start playing with him self and I’ll explain stop I just want to sleep and so on and he’d continue and rub up against me and start kissing and slide his finger down the side of my leg and every after saying I’m tired and to stop he’d continue to get his own way till I eventually snap or till I give in that’s problem one . Problem two is the constant touching since having my LG and the constant cuddles I just want to be left alone when she’s napping or sleeping but he’ll turn it into a big thing and will change a little in mood which I find it kinda weird by the way I’ve never been for one for contact and he’s known this for a while , as well as he constantly wants to be in the bath with me I can never get one alone and when I ask for one he gets offish again and will be weird or whatever but you know it’s there if I ever want time alone he’ll make any excuses to come in or be with me and don’t mention the 10x maybe more calls during the day and the apple find my 🫣 any advice on what I can do ? Is this abusive ? I need help bec I can’t keep doing this

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In all honesty it doesn't sound great lovely, he should be respectful of what you want and if you say no to anything and then give in that's still not really giving consent because you don't want to. It also sounds like he's very controlling and you don't sound like you're happy at all. Is there anyone in your family you can talk to who could help you? Or are you able to speak to your health visitor they may be able to point you in some directions. I'm not sure if you can message me from this comment but if you can feel free to and I will help find you some resources and we can figure things out together. Sending you so much love xx

No means no it doesn’t mean “persuade me”. And the calls 10x a day/find my phone is controlling and obsessive behaviour This definitely isn’t right and you need to leave before it gets aggressive,..

Honestly? He sounds like a right sex pest, eww. I have the ick for you! He isn't respecting your boundaries at all, so I'd be telling him very sternly to piss off or get out!

Don’t get me wrong he’s a lovely guy outside of all this the compliments the love the support and always pushes me to do my best and is my biggest supporter in everything I do x

That’s sexual assault firstly, secondly, please leave. He’s treating you like you are property rather than your own person.

That may be the case lovely but there are lots of red flags here that outweigh the good traits he may have xxx

Sheesh! That would wind me up. His behaviour seems a bit OTT. Maybe he feels that now the baby is here he’s not getting your attention as much but he should be respectful and give you some alone time to unwind. Maybe there are support groups you can call for advice. Good luck x

I'm sure as you say he's a lovely guy in every other way, but this IS borderline sexual harassment, probably not even borderline tbh! No means no! He's allowed to feel frustrated about it, but he is NOT allowed to keep pushing it when you say no!

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