How do you compromise on sex?

You could sleep more & be more rested, energized & excited about sex if he would watch the baby while you sleep. So that’s his choice.

Both but also the third option is he should be finding ways to help you so you feel rested. Maybe he can offer more of a sensual massage to see if it relaxes you and you could offer the occasional blowjob if you don't want full on sex. But he should also not be hurt if you just say no. Explain it to him that you want to but you're exhausted and what could help you. It might help him understand

Both! Meet in the middle. Tell him you are too exhausted to be in the mood and make sure he knows that sleep is what is causing this issue. Maybe he can help more.

How long ago did you have your baby? Does he do enough to help give you that break, rest, and enough sleep? Ultimately, I think he should be patient with you and be understanding and not push it on you, it's tiring being a mum and the last thing on our mind

This guy has no idea how lucky he is to even have it once a week. Most mothers have sex once per 2 months around this rough post partum time. I did a poll last year here so I'm not making it up. Sometimes I wish there was a device that would allow someone to feel exactly what you feel so they realise how selfish it is to want sex so persistently when we are feeling drained af. I know we should also compromise and try to meet their needs but come on, twice a week. I personally prefer to give oral cause it doesn't require getting in the mood, being wet, forcing myself to cum etc.

Why are you only sleeping 3 hours a night? Like 3 hours TOTAL? Dunno how you're alive Have you tried cosleeping? Does hubby watch baby so you can sleep every day?

@Grayson this! I had 4 hours away from my son the other day for the first time since he was born 14 months ago (he's a super needy child) And honestly I felt revived and instantly in the mood as soon as I got to rest a bit. My partners also burnt out and we're struggling to balance everything

@Liv massage is a good idea. I have spoken to him about it and he says he understands etc but he's really handsy and in some ways it puts me off more

@Becky 14 months he's just EBF and a very clingy baby, he Co sleeps already but wakes every hour in the night to feed so my sleep has been so broken. I just feel bad because I know I'm not meeting his needs

@Ella I don't know how I'm alive either tbh😂 my sons just a poor sleeper unfortunately. We do cosleep already but I'm so ready to have my bed back. My partner is away for half the week which doesn't help and when he's here he does his bit around the house and is hands on with our son but is also burnt out and falls asleep whenever he gets the opportunity (don't even get me started on that). I struggle to sleep in the day too because I have ADHD so my mind doesn't shut off but even Just having time to bath/relax or have baby free time makes a huge difference

I mean my baby woke every hour on a good night. But I could still get 6-8 hours sleep over an 11 hour period by going back to sleep between every wake.

@Ella I struggle to drift off again quickly, so by the time I've fallen back asleep I'm waking up again to feed

My husband made sure he helped me so I wasn’t exhausted and had enough energy to suck an fuck on him lmao but it make sense it u want some gotta help cause I can’t do shit tired or hungry and he knows that so he makes sure I’m fed and not to overwhelmed lmao

If my parents ever wants sex he makes an effort by actually doing his ‘job’ (bins, washing up) without having to be asked to 😅it’s the little things

@Poppie lol whoops, you said parents instead of partner 🤣🤣

Do you have anxiety by any chance?

@Ella I do as a secondary symptom to my ADHD, have had it most my life tbh. I'm doing CBT at the moment to try ease it a bit but it doesn't seem to be doing much. Nothing really does with the lack of sleep, it just feels like a vicious cycle 😔

I asked because anxiety can cause insomnia. Have you tried medication? I take Zoloft and it helps loads. I only get insomnia when my anxiety is bad. If it's manageable, I can fall back asleep straight away.

@Ella Jesus yeah didn’t mean parents meant partner 😅been a little ill