Should I feel guilty

My boyfriend or soon to be ex has traumatized me and verbally abused me since we’ve found out that I was pregnant. After a heated argument that pushed me to my breaking point I’ve come to the realization that he’s been doing this my whole pregnancy if I’m not prioritizing him and his needs. I want to leave but he has said things that make me scared to leave him. I don’t know what to do if it was just me I would walk away but our daughter who is due March is who I have to think about before myself.
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If your going through emotional abuse then you won’t be able to be the best for your daughter.

You are correct. You have your daughter to think about. You don’t want your daughter growing up thinking that’s the appropriate way to speak to people or the appropriate way to be spoken to by a man. It’s important to be the example of a strong women, especially with girls! Sometimes we’re better parents/ people apart. If you’re 100% present while with him, then work through it, but if you know it’s too much to handle, the baby will only intensify it and you’d be a better mom, single. Best of luck from a fellow girl mom 🩷

I felt trapped out of fear in a situation and eventually had three kids and got even more stuck. I finally left when my oldest got old enough to look me in the eye and tell me I needed to leave her dad and we all deserved better. Please learn from me. The sense of peace we all felt once I finally left his house and had my own space was amazing. My oldest had to take counseling at first because her dad lost his mind and got really physical the day I kicked him out. But her relationship with him is soo much better without her having to witness him calling me a bitch and throwing fits all the time.

Go to domestic abuse center. They have plenty of resources. I was going through the same during pregnancy. It is a voulnerable time, I get it. But it got worse after birth of the baby. And then I finaly took steps. Do not just leave. Report him for abuse. He will not know unless you call police. At the crisis center they will provide all support and advice you and your unborn baby need. Take power into your hands. If you want a supporting hand, feel free to message me. I am going through this right now. Almost on the other side. Your girl does not need to see or hear any of what her father is doing to you. As tough and scary it is now. Think about your and her future.

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