Am I racist?

I often think to myself, am I racist because I only like to be friends with other black women like me! I genuinely don’t feel comfortable around other races I often get a feeling of at some point I’m going to have to beat you tf up for saying or doing something out of line and I just don’t want to take them chances! But I don’t think I’m racist because I don’t mind conversing or interacting with other races! I just feel more comfortable and open to receiving love from my own people. I kinda want to get out of that but idk how. I feel so weird being around other races wondering if my skin is bothering them, or having to keep explaining what I’m talkin about like omg 🤦🏾‍♀️😒
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No it's a preference there's a difference im mixed (black and white) but i don't date black men i prefer white men that doesn't make me a racist

I don’t think so. I’m kinda the same way. But I started giving people small chances and I made amazing friends with a few of other races. That’s normal.

@Victoria Aguilar and yea I don’t think that’s racist I actually understand as a black woman lmao

Just curious, would you consider it racist for a white woman to prefer white friends?

@Rebecca no not at all lol I don’t even really like white women so them not wanting to be my friend actually works I actually am irritated when they extend friendship! When I say open to other races I mean ones with actual cultures not culture vultures! So that wouldn’t bother me one bit I actually encourage it 🤗

I hate that people re made what racist means and go by that instead of the actual definition of racism but girl you can be friends with whomever you want if that's just black women only then let it be there's white women who do the same im sure all races do it in some fashion

Not racist at all. I feel the same way. I haven’t had too many good experiences with them. They are either bigots or closet racist. So I just stay in my lane. I keep it cordial and keep it moving.

@Victoria Aguilar and that’s why I was wondering like everything is so sensitive now and it makes u think deeply lol like damn I don’t wanna be racist but I don’t feel comfortable around white women let’s just be honest and keep it a buck I don’t like the vibes and they extend their friendship so much and it’s so cringey to me cause wtf do you want love 😭🤦🏾‍♀️ and I can’t say that I have this problem with anybody but them cause I have a Peruvian friend a Colombian friend a Greek friend lol but something about them just does not sit right with me 😭 and I don’t dislike them but it just gives no thank you love leave me alone ✨🫶🏾

And that's 100% okay don't let no one tell you otherwise 🫶🏼

@Victoria Aguilar omg thank you girl 😭✨

Just being a girls girl💕 need more of them tbh

@Victoria Aguilar we really really do tho lol 😂 💖🫶🏾

It's crazy how much hate women give other women just for being different or having a different mom style it's insane

Like someone else said, I think it's just your preference. People usually get along with others more when they have more common ground.

@Victoria Aguilar literally that’s why I’m so quick to chew a bih up cause mind your business lmao worry bout u not me

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@Jennifer exactly

@Rebecca not at all. You vibe with who you vibe with.

Makes sense! Personally I don’t see anything wrong with it! We all gravitate toward people we have more in common with - whether that’s race, culture, hobbies, religion, etc.

I don’t think it’s racist if that’s literally the only kinds of white women that have tried to extend their friendship to you. If you have literally nothing in common with them then why would you be friends? The whole point of friendship is to choose people to be around you who can support and understand you and you do the same for them.

@Nikki that is absolutely truth! I just never understand why they extend it knowing we have nothing in common like love if you lookin to culture vulture this isn’t the area I gatekeep everything for my people I fuck wit so comin to steal ideas or vibes or personality is dead this way!

You deserve to have community in whatever space you feel the most understood, seen, and safe in. Anyone saying that the reverse (a white woman saying she only wants to be friends with other white women) is simply not sensitive to the long, traumatic, generations of racism, microagression, discrimination, and inequity black women have and still do face. You are valid in being weary, you are responding to a society rooted in suppression and injustice.

@Emily literally it’s very uncomfortable

I don’t understand what you mean by “culture vulture” and how a white woman simply extending friendship to you is doing that? You seem to have a super negative view of white women as if they’re all that way? I assure you so many of us aren’t like that! I’ve never tried to “steal vibes or personality” (though idk even know what that means - doesn’t everyone have different personality regardless of race?). Like I’m confused why you’re assuming white women are automatically going to act in that way. Seems unfair to paint us all in the same way.

@Rebecca and here you are doing it again 😂 please cry your white woman victim tears on your own post love idgaf nor do I want to be your friend so I don’t genuinely give a fuck about you or how you feel about how I feel lmao! So ughh yea won’t get another response from me I don’t HAVE to explain shit to you tf u think you own me lmao tf out my face love ✊🏾

Wow, please block me so I don’t have to experience your hate again. Please. I hope you get some therapy to deal with the obvious chip you have on your shoulder. ✌️

I don’t know what I’m “doing again” or how I’m being a “white victim”. Nothing in my comment even remotely indicated that!! But if you can’t even answer a genuine respectful question without cussing me out, then it’s you who has the problem, not me 😂 Sorry, but your completely uncalled for hate for ALL white women is incredibly racist. Black people can absolutely be racist and I’m sorry to find that you’re one. I’ll stick to communicating with people who are kind and respectful regardless of race.

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