Poor Communication?!

Maybe they are just looking for advice for the time being 🤷‍♀️

I think a lot of people are definitely venting. But I agree a bit, some posts seem as if they can’t even talk to their partner and that they are suffering in silence which is sad. I think there can be so many factors that contribute to this though. I’m outspoken in all ways in my life, so if my partner is upsetting me about something I have no issue with bringing it up.

I have noticed this, and I always ask “have you spoken to them?” Cause like in my brain how the fuck did you agree to have a child with someone who you are not comfortable talking to???

I have seen it every now and again.

@Parker 又 could not have said it better myself 🥴🤣

this is why i always comment asking if they spoke to their partner first and most of the time they don’t !!! like whyyyy are you married or having kids with someone you’re not event comfortable speaking to??

Idk.

Sometimes they have spoken to them and they just don’t listen or don’t want to change either. I know from my own experience, I’m better off just venting to my best friend and keeping my own sanity and avoiding a blow out from him. My husband changed completely when my son was born. He doesn’t do well with not getting attention anymore

I think it’s cause a lot of people are looking for validation not actual solutions

It’s the buildup to eventually wanting the ultimatum, it’s extreme and some people need to talk about it even if it’s little before it grows into something that WILL hurt the relationship imo

Also yes seeking validation not solutions like Daija said, if you keep having to say something and they still won’t accommodate you or meet in the middle after so long, only an ultimatum really solves if it’s that big of an issue

A lot of people have poor communication skills. So they can't actually BOTH calmly talk about grievances in the relationship without turning into a fight which is unproductive.

People come here for perspective before talking to their partner

It’s not always that simple maybe they have spoke to their partners several times and nothing changes or they just dont listen

Maybe because it's written in the moment with high emotions when they're angry/upset enough to only consider the dramatic options? I should imagine it changes for alot of people once they've calmed a bit... either that or its people that are finally venting here because they really have had enough, after all we don't know how long they've been dealing with their situations, they could have tried to fix it multiple times and may have just finally had enough.