Does anyones partner help with the housework?
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We have a cleaner come twice a month to do a big clean, and then we just sort of keep on top of it, but she’s honestly a god send and if he’s offering I’d definitely take him up on it. But yeah he does help out, mainly with putting washes on, cleaning up after dinner, loading dishwasher etc. he’ll do mopping & hoovering if I ask, but don’t think he really notices to do it unless he’s spilled something
I was getting completely overwhelmed with working part time and looking after my family so we got a cleaner and it is the best thing ever. I don't get annoyed by the dirt anymore as I know when they are coming, and I don't resent my husband for not doing it or noticing it even. You could give it a try for short time and see what you feel afterwards!
Personally I think my money is his and his is mine so I wouldn't accept the offer of a cleaner 😅 surely he can manage doing the bathrooms once a week. If you're happy to spend money on a cleaner though go for it. Hopefully this helps you out too though not just him.
Chores are not for everyone and working/parenting is exhausting. Personally I feel like your partner is being supportive by suggesting paying someone else to do it so you don’t have to. Or I guess you could just moan at him and continue in the same situation… We are both working full time and cleaning is an exhausting chore but we 100% want a clean home. I told my partner I’ll cook/food shop/sort childcare and that we have to get a cleaner. I’m not a maid and don’t understand why some women ‘do it all’ or are expected to especially if working, but also sahm is hard work too! My partner also refused a cleaner because he doesn’t want a stranger to clean his home, so I refused to clean and now he does it all himself! And he does it all, including bathrooms, bedding and laundry. If he ever doesn’t do it in future, I’m booking the cleaner straight away 😂
My partner works full time and I am part time with my son at home on my days off, so similar. I do the "easy" bits such as laundry, washing up, cleaning kitchen, hoovering etc. on those days off but have to leave the big jobs like bathrooms, ovens and so on until the weekend when partner either takes toddler out for a while or amuses him in the other room. We share chores in the evening and he does bigger things like mopping the floor, DIY, gardening too. I don't ever feel like our house is more than superficially clean - neither of us has the time to do any more. I completely understand not wanting a stranger in your bathrooms but if he is willing to pay for it then I would go for it.