Am I the only one who finds it weird when women judge other women for wanting their husbands last name?

I mean, obviously you're not the only one who finds it weird since the vast majority of women do take their husband's last name 😂

I don’t think I’ve ever seen/heard someone pass judgement about this. But if I did, ya I would think it’s weird lol. I don’t think it’s that serious either way 😂 like who cares.

Girl I RAN to change my name when I got married lol. Everything was done in less than 2 months. Yes she’s weird for that, don’t feel ashamed of wanting your husband’s last name. You can be proud of the fact that he’s your husband and you have a family of your own. It’s also weird that your friend thinks a name defines who you are. Very simple-minded

So what’s the point of her getting married then when it’s time …that’s the whole point of getting married to change your name or you can even hyphenate it with yours and his … lord help her man

It is absolutely not the point of marriage to change your name 😂 I have friends where the husband has taken the wife’s name, they’ve hyphenated, or more traditionally take the husbands name. I took my husbands name very happily as I felt no attachment to my maiden name. I have literally no judgement over whatever a couple decide to do regarding what they would like to be known as.

All surnames comes from a man, whether that be your father/grandfather or your husband, so I don’t see why anyone should be judged for choosing what they want 🤷🏻‍♀️ When I got married, I instantly took his surname and then when I got divorced I chose my own surname via deed poll as I no longer had any form of contact with my father and didn’t want either of their names anymore. If I get married again, I will hyphenate my surname to match my daughters (due in Jan. Hyphenating her surname). But only because I chose this name. It is mine

Some I feel is because there’s no son/lack of family and if they’re changing their name it might be ending with them I saw a video of all daughters getting the name tattooed for that reason

@Raqi I don't know if you meant to be a smart ass but please reread what I said. I said am I the only one who finds it weird to judge another women for wanting to take her husbands last name! But also if you didn't mean to be a smart ass my apologies 🙂

@Heidi I can see that and I don't judge whatsoever I believe in everyone doing what they feel is best I guess my thing is I didn't know there was a right or wrong choice when it came to this situation 🤷‍♀️

@Charlotte I don't feel that is the point of marriage, I feel everyone should do that they feel is best! And I feel this is best for me, I love my fiance he's a great guy but taking his last name shouldn't be seen as a loss of identity the same way if a woman chooses not to take her mans last name it shouldn't be seen as her loving him any less

@Carmen I just don't feel any attachment to my maiden name so I guess that's why I never gave it much thought 🤷‍♀️ plus I'm estranged from my family so no point in keeping it you know? But she definitely is simple minded because it's just a name change 😂

@Donna Woods in Hispanic cultures the names are passed down from the women, actually. My mom never changed her name when she got married. I never thought anything of it as a child. My dad’s last name sounded way uglier anyway 😅 I changed my name when I got married - my husband’s name does sound a bit better than my original last name. If it had been horrible I likely wouldn’t have changed it to be honest. People seem to forget that a huge part of feminism is having CHOICES and being able to decide what is best for ourselves and our families.

As someone who has been married and got divorced changing your name is a pain in the ass! I’ll probably just hyphenate next time I get married as I hyphenated my baby’s last name. I think it’s nice we are getting out of the societal norm for last names more hyphenating more people keeping original last name. Honestly don’t think it’s a big deal either way at the end of the day I don’t think anyone really cares tbh 🤷🏻‍♀️

I think it’s weird to judge anybody on things that have nothing to do with me in general lmao

Incog my point about marriage was directed at the comment above mine - just forgot to tag 🤷‍♀️ As I said, it’s up to every couple to decide how they would like to be known, no judgement here.

I think some women see it as being the man’s ’property’ and like why do I have to take his? Which is absolutely fine they don’t need to take their name but some women want the same last name as their husband and kids and don’t have an issue with it and that’s fine too! I’m double barrelling mainly because my last name is way cooler and sounds better lol Sometimes I do think like why does the baby always get dad’s last name? Like did you see what I had to go through to get him out - he’s having my name too 🤣

I am double barrelled but not hyphenated. I got married when I was 36, I didn't want to give up my last name but I also wanted the same as my kids and husband. Officially I am Mrs S P but when needed I am Mrs P (often when people can't pronounce my surname, my husband's is easier, but also when doing something all together). I don't judge anyone for keeping their name, taking their partner's or having both. You gotta do what feels right for your family. Ideally I wanted us all to have both names but my husband didn't want to

@Aryyy That part because explaining why you want to change your name or not is bonkers to me... 😂🤷‍♀️ It's a name keep it or leave it I didnt know it was that serious

@Cass I can see that, but I'm not ones property... Except uncle Sam's maybe 😂😂😂🤷‍♀️ but yes I do agree on that I feel on birth certificates the last name should be hyphenated to include mom and dad's name because why is it just Dad's name?! 😂😂

I took my husbands surname because I preferred it to mine… not really much more to it than that 😝

Don’t get me wrong I love my maiden name, wasn’t a common one and everyone mispronounced it and would be shocked when I told them the proper way to 🤣🤣 got some good jokes about it hahah but I as also really excited to change my last name and take my husbands. I would have kept mine and added my husbands but my name would just be waaaaaayyy to long and I didn’t wanna bother with all that haha

I mean I do and don't want his last name both. His last name is ridiculously common.... My maiden name, which I kept ... Is very uncommon and I've had it for a while

So.... I'm not sure if I'll take it or not down the line .... Or that I'm unofficially Mrs ( last name ) ... And still officially the name I've had for nearly 40 years 😅😅

lol I thought that was normal. As a Nigerian we take our husbands last name.

I didnt take my husbands surname because I am Muslim and it's not done in our religion. But honestly I really wouldn't want to because my husband surname is German/Austrian and I am East African, I like to represent my own heritage. I don't care what others do but I do find it kinda funny when like someone from a whole different race/ culture has an unexpected surname haha x

I wouldn’t judge someone for wanting their husbands last name. I kept my name cuz I like it more and I didn’t want a bunch of paperwork. Also keeping my last name was a little jab at patriarchal oppression. Gotta take the small victories 😮‍💨

A lot of women feel like it’s passing ownership of themselves to their husband. But with that thought process, your maiden name is technically indicating you are your father’s property. So why not change your name to be with someone you choose? I don’t agree that nowadays the last name signifies property at all, but more devotion and it’s an apt way to signify a new beginning and a new life.

I don’t agree with women who take major offense to changing their last name, but at the same time, it’s none of my business and not my relationship. So I might question like “oh really, why?” And give my thought on the significance. But I would never go beyond just agreeing to disagree

I mean there's enough ( Mrs last name ) in my husband's family currently, though his sister in law kept her maiden name professionally, afaik.... They both have doctorate degrees)

Besides we've been together long enough... I'm an honorary 🤣🤣🤣

The piece of paper 5 years ago was just a formality.... We've lived together since 2012

Seriously lmao especially if I’m not the one being called it 😂😭

I had the same happen to me. Multiple ask/pass judgment that I’d change my last name knowing I planned to get my doctorate. Someone asked why give him the credit? Like huh lmao

@Carmen we got married very privately because we were doing a destination wedding a little later. Literally went and got a new passport picture same day. Applied for the name change Monday morning lol. All done in 2 weeks

Completely up to you. But bringing in the kid factor in- my child has both my surname and her dad's surname. I quite liked the idea that she's carrying on my last name, unless she gets married at whatever point 😂

Yeah where I’m from we keep our maiden names in the middle, but our last names become our husband’s. For example my name in Colombia is Kianna (maiden) of (husband’s last name) I’m very happy and don’t feel like property lol

@Daija if I could have done the same I would have! I had to wait 2 weeks for the certificate to come in the mail. I was so ready to have the same name as my family that I created

@Kianna I like that! It sounds like a Bridgerton title lol

@Carmen right ahah at my ob appointment I was like oo that sounds niice 😂 now I wanna change it to that lmfao

I want to keep my second name and my fiancee kinda agrees with me that he’d change his last name to mine. Mine is Jaffa which is unique

Having been stopped twice by immigration whilst travelling with my daughter, having passport issues and having a receptionist call us “the XXs and Miss XX”, I changed it. Tbh wasn’t much paperwork at all. I use my maiden name at work due to my qualifications and reputation being in that name. Every day though we all now have the same name and it’s lovely.

I can’t wait to not have my hideous last name 😭 I got made fun of for it in school cuz it contains the word COCK lol

@Patience mine was guay produced gay 🤣🤣

@Lex oh no! 😭😭 the bus is the worst for the bullying of the last names lol

@Patience I played into it 🤣 my friends and I had a lot of fun with it lolol my one friends last name was bates and we’d tell people her middle name was master 😅🤣

My husband and I moved our original last names to our middle names and we picked our own family last name. We both have a great relationship with our families. We just decided that with our marriage, we would be creating our own family and we would like to start with a mutual last name we both can agree to. Names are what you make it