Daycare advice

My son (2) is in daycare and I work at his daycare. We teach our child consent and always ask him if we can hold, kiss, or hug him before we do so (other than picking him up for safety reasons) and I was told that a teacher said “come here buddy” and he said no then she went to get him anyway and he said “go away” and she told him that’s not nice. I’m upset and not sure how to approach this.

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She's not wrong that his "go away" wasn't nice, but I feel like there is some context missing here. What was the teacher trying to get your son to do? Was she just trying to get/give affection or did she need him in a certain part of the room for safety? If it was a safety thing, I think a conversation with your son about listening to teacher direction is needed. If it was an affection thing, just tell the teacher that you are trying to instill bodily autonomy with your son and ask that the teacher respect his words about his body

@Charlotte She just wanted affection and is frequently hugging and kissing the children, And he told her No already and she tried anyways. If it was a safety thing it would be entirely different!

@Janni ❤️ I completely agree! Especially now with sick season but the consent of it all is huge too! I’m just not sure how to approach it especially since she’s not even his teacher but I guess on her break sh goes in to see “her babies” and my son is evidently not a fan of this

I mean. I get where you're coming from but we also teach our little one that telling someone to "go away" is rude and unkind.

@Bethan He’s 2 and in daycare so he hears it a lot and we have talked about it and his main teacher said he he doesn’t just say it unless someone is hitting him or trying to bite. So i think currently that’s just the extent of his language when he is frustrated or uncomfortable but as he gets older I will teach him to say “no means no” honestly I’m not going to teach him to be polite when his boundaries are not being respected just as I wouldn’t teach my daughter that.

@Laurel 100% have a conversation with the teacher again, and if it continues to be an issue with her, then go to the director for further support

I’d definitely speak up about it. Your son has expressed unwanted contact with someone. The person has then crossed that boundary so I his ‘go away’ is completely valid in my eyes. Everyone should understand no means no matter how old they are. I would be very proud of your son for doing so. Definitely bring it up and explain he doesn’t want the physical contact so to just accept when he doesn’t want it.

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