Discipline

Mines already throwing tantrums when I take toys away or a pack of wipes. I’m not into gentle parenting personally, I think discipline really is each to their own. He will be told firmly no or not to do something. I will repeat myself a couple of times and if that does not work I will use taking things away, naughty steps, time outs etc. He will then need to apologise for his behaviour etc and then we can have a cuddle and he comes back to playing. I was brought up this way x

We will be taking this calmly without force and fear being used. Tantrums are age appropriate and we will just wait them out without making a big fuss over it. Physical harm and intentionally being rude eg spitting, name calling, throwing things etc will result in her being removed from the situation until she's able to calm down and then she'll be told why it is wrong and what she can do instead. Punishment will fit the crime so if she makes a mess then she'll clean it or if she breaks something she will need to think about how to fix it. I want her to do things because she's learned to do something that way, not avoid it because she's scared she'll get punished

I very much just explain the rule and why. "That's not for playing with, it might break etc" and if they cry, validate and hold the boundary and offer and alternative "oh I know you're sad because you wanted XYZ, we can't play with that, why don't we play with this instead" Yes it may seem silly saying it to a 6 month old, but it pays off when they are a little older and 1. You're used to doing it and 2. You start to see them responding to it!

I have 4 girls and don’t really have rules just action and consequence… you can do whatever you want but bad decisions have real life consequences. I’ve been criticised for not being tough enough because I’m never angry, but then they’re only ever disappointed about the consequence not upset over the situation. Also it takes away personal offence or frustration, they’re not disrespecting or being cheeky TO ME, they’re figuring out life and made a choice, we’ve all been there 🤣 x

@Indy this is a really nice way to look at it! I'm going to try think more like this! It's also more "real life".

@Indy I love this! I work in a children's home so my personal parenting style I think is and will be quite similar to my professional parenting style: we love natural consequences 🙌🏻😂