Am I wrong for being a little upset?

We have 4 kids hardly any time together. We get a break for a quick meal together at the nearest bar. We order our drinks and food and get our table as soon as we sit down mother in law calls and hubby spends about 15mins with her on the phone while I’m just sat there. I got up and went to the toilet cos I felt so stupid just sitting there while other couple chatting away. When I came back he was still on the phone and after a few min he said he’ll ‘call you back.’I asked and it wasn’t even an urgent call. His mum always wants his attention, she called min 3-4 times a day all hours and she always tells him he puts me and the kids first before her. But isn’t that how it should be. I just feel in that moment it would have been nice if he gave me his undivided attention since we hardly get time alone. I was a bit quiet the rest of the meal… we ended up have a quick quiet meal and then heading back home.

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You are not wrong for this at all and yes he should be putting YOU and your babies first. That’s absolutely absurd!!

I agree you’re not wrong at all for feeling that way. Have you tried bringing it up to him?

@Courtney thank you! yes I’ve brought this up soo many times. I’ve just stopped now. Because it annoys me that I have to keep saying the same thing. She lives in a different country so I understand she wants to be in touch but it’s up to him to pick the right and wrong moments to be on the phone to ur mum! Ugh! Girl I’m so tired of begging for the bare minimum of what I deserve. 😩 like I can’t be competing with ur mum.

@Sharnee thank u I needed this back up😩

Maybe say to him when you’re out at restaurants no phones at the table and no calls unless it’s an emergency? If you put it to him that the time together is important to you and he doesn’t agree with that simple request, well then that tells you all you need to know!

I would be too!! It makes it worse knowing that you’ve brought it up to him before. I would say something in the moment. I would text on my phone and say “Call her when we are done eating or I might as well just leave now” and maybe then he will finally understand how serious you are.

@Chloe thanks! I guess another conversation with some clear boundaries won’t do any harm! Just annoying when I have to say something that should be so obvious.

@Courtney you know what I really wanted to do this, just text him. Also when I got up to go to the bathroom a part of me just wanted to walk out and get a taxi home. 🙄

I'm petty. If I have spoke to him about it numerous times and it falls on deaf ears, I would do the same to him and see how he likes it.

I feel exactly the same way except it’s not my MIL she is amazing it’s my husbands 2 jobs. He will pick up the phone in the middle of a conversation we are having and just leave to take care of whatever needs to be done whether that is something on the computer or physically needing to go in to work. I’m so over it. You are not alone. That was rude and very bad boundaries on his part. He was communicating that his mom’s non-urgent phone call was more important that very limited availability of quality time with you. That would hurt anyone.

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