Cant you just put your foot down and talk to him about how you’re feeling? I just feel like breaking up the family so you can have a clean house and a bit of you time is quite excessive unless you’ve tried literally everything else
If you still love him then you need to sit down and talk to him about how hard you are finding things. Also children aren’t small forever and you will get time back to yourself one day. It certainly won’t be easier on the child if you split up and you will still have to coparent and negotiate with someone except now they won’t be necessarily on your side
Girl dm me.