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@Cass yes once dad is home I feel so much relief, even though the baby is usually sleep by that time 😂 he is trying to help more in the morning though thank god. I also just got my license so I’m definitely looking forward to the target runs!
Cut yourself some slack! Is your baby fed? Is your baby meeting mile stones? Are you able to make your baby laugh? Does your baby want to be around you all the time? If your answer yes then girl your doing just fine. As for always feeling tired I'm legit in the same boat as you. Are you having any other symptoms? Like irregular periods, PMS symptoms? I'd talk to a doctor if your REALLY concerned otherwise, don't forget. MOTHERHOOD IS HARD! A true blessing though!
What time is your baby waking up in the morning? I would try to push bedtime a little later, dad can help when he gets home! Sometimes if I need a break we take a long walk or a drive. It gets easier once they're older and can go to the park and play more!
@Sierra I definitely needed these reminders! Yes to all of those 🥹
@Erica he wakes up between 6-7 still somehow so it’s not been an issue but I do wanna try to aim for at least a 6 o clock bed time!
Take the sleep while you can. I used to lay on the couch like a zombie from 6am to 10am as a sahm when my kids were babies. Don't worry about it. Honestly if your baby is fed and happy, I would just pick 10 minutes during the day where you connect purposefully and then let go of that guilt after that. You're doing great.
I'm sorry you're going through this, but it's reassuring for me to know there are other mom's feeling this way with me. I have been struggling with this, too. My daughter has been waking up all night the last month too, so lately I've been getting her diaper changed in the morning when she's up and feeding her and then putting something on the TV and taking a nap in the play pen with her while she plays until she's ready for a nap. I feel awful about it and feel like I'm missing out on time with her and not doing as much as other moms, but she's happy, so I try to tell myself it's okay. During the day I try to play with her and be intentional but I often get really busy and am stuck cleaning, etc, while she plays in her playpen. I do still take her out quite often to run errands and spend lots of time trying to talk to her and be intentional while we're out and about. Being a mom is amazing, but also tough and exhausting. I think we're doing our best for them and sometimes that means taking care of ourselves.
This is why I post things like this! So other people don’t feel alone in their feelings. Thank you to everyone that commented it all meant a lot and actually helped me!
I used to feel an enormous amount of pressure to spend time with him doing "baby" stuff. Like playing with toys or using toys to teach him/ help him reach milestones. I soon realized that engaging with him could mean doing other stuff, going on target runs, cooking, cleaning, etc. He just wants to be a part of whatever im doing. Also, once dad's home is is out of my hands pretty much until bedtime so it helps to have that little but of time to myself before I need to do bedtime routine haha.