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If I could I would. Haha believe me
I don't think it's just the money thing. If he made no money, but handled the groceries, cooking, housework, took excellent care of your kids, managed your son's diagnosis, school drop offs, occasionally rubbed your feet and ate some 🐱, this would be a tribute post. You'd have time to advance your own career and make more money. But that's not where we are... You've reached your threshold on a lot of things. Money is just another item on the list. 😕
I would've been done once unemployment ran out and he still didn't have a job. Even if it's a crap job, do SOMETHING
Definitely not AITA, you’ve proven you’re a strong capable woman. So if you have to send him on his merry way, oh well 🤷🏽♀️ he should have done better. One benefit of being a woman is we can find 🍆 without much effort if we really need to 🤣
You are 100 percent in the right. Dad needs to be providing and protecting. That's how I see it anyways... If he was going to be the stay at home parent I would be worried about the state of the house and the children because he seems like he lacks motivation and drive. Also yeah do not have sex with him if you cannot afford another child haha
I mean I would put an exit sign over the front door that flashes and makes a noise so he can find his own way out the door
Absolutely, if you don't want to sleep with him, dont. Does he do all the housework? He fucking better if he's not doing anything else
Also, it sounds like a scam?? Are you sure he even joined? Sounds like he lied
Not sure why the military is in his choice for a job with three young kids. Unless he truly wants to serve his country and always has or something. I know times are hard but as a manager myself we are scrounging for people who want to work, is he unable to find something else? You are not wrong though I feel this in some ways
Unacceptable. I’d give him an ultimatum: get a job or take everything else off my plate (childcare, cleaning, shopping, cooking etc). If he isn’t doing either what the hell is he doing?
@ANDREA🌱 😂right? I’m so good on D. I just want stabilityyyyy
@Brandi fortunately we’ve got full healthcare😅 (Birth Control on Deck!!)
@Sam love this💪🏽🙌🏽
@Ella @Jodi oddly he’s got such a plethora of certifications and experience, along with schooling. I’ve seen this man have 7 different jobs in our time together.. I suggested he finally do the military (air guard) so he HAS to stick w it. I understand not wanting to do less than u’re capable of.. but I figured if he goes ahead w this (which was on his bucket list) that he’ll be able to clear up a few things at once: benefits, help w housing, debt elimination (from bonuses)… he’ll have that reference forever. At this point I also want him to see how sweet he does have it and want to do better. I hate comparing my situation to others but it’s really hard not to get frustrated with the help I’m not receiving
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@Knadia ahh I totally see where you are coming from. You can’t hold up everyone forever, part of a partner ship like this is to both do the work. Good luck
girl 5 YEARS??! omfg i did it for 2 w with my ex and let me tell u it was easier being on my own than dealing with that loser of a man. he did the same thing saying he was going into the military, get fired from every job he had, etc not reliable and let me tell u NOT A MAN. my husband and biological father to my children is a real man that i can count on and that’s what u need girl 💅 ditch the loser and watch everything fall into place the way it should’ve been
Yeh i won't lie, my foof would be bone dry over this bloke. It's completely unacceptable to be unemployed for 2years 7 months!
Yeah ok but is he doing all the housework? I mean he's home all day
How is he as a father? If he's no help in that either and ur holding it down on your own, kick him out sis, its been long enough #noscrubs
Girl I stopped reading after “2 years“ whatever you feel you valid lmaooooooo 😂😂😂😭
In my opinion, your body is speaking for itself…You’ve been left to take on the greater majority of earning and house hold tasks, which is also WORK.
@Knadia birth control isn't guaranteed though! Haha
@Annie @Rebecca😩🥺
@Ella no on the housework.. he takes out the trash and cleans the cat box when I ask.. puts away groceries when he orders them. @Mary see he’s a great dad.. I mean he gives them structure and is my right hand w them.. he’ll take them to and from school.. helps me w everything regarding them and when I burn out he can handle it all. If push comes to shove on anything he’s the guy to call that WILL get it done and he loves them just as much as I do. So (and I think also this comes into play) as someone who grew up with no consistent father figure I may have that way heavily w my tolerance.
@Aryyy I was waitin for this one😅😂
@Knadia it’s always me lmfao cause baby two years 😭 u have damn near been replaced by month 6 😭✌🏾 cause baby nobody signed up to struggle idgaf what nobody said don’t love ya that much 😘🫰🏾✨
I'd join the military myself. Then tell him marry me and be a stay at home dad or take a hike.