am i tripping??

i’m wondering wtf is going on. my man falls asleep with his phone open in his hands/his chest quite often. so far it’s been 4 times now i’ve came to bed and took his phone off his chest/out his hands and he fell asleep with fb open and his search pulled up. each time the ex gf of his deceased best friend is at the top of his search. after the 2nd time of seeing this i deleted her from the search history just to see if he’s actively looking her up regularly and wouldn’t you know it, he is. how should i feel? how would you feel? this is the girl he has little nicknames for because he knew her before his best friend got with her, is younger and prettier, has no kids etc. her and his deceased best friend weren’t even together to my knowledge when he passed and my man blamed his friends death on her around me, but would hug her and comfort her every time he saw her after the death. she doesn’t come around anymore for any social events nor does she still hang out with her exes family like she did when he first died. it’s been almost 2 years so i wholeheartedly have no idea why he’s just now starting to look her up consistently.

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Have you spoken to him about it? That's the first thing I'd be doing?

My first thought would be that he fancies her. But I would definitely ask him about it

I wouldn’t be concerned if it was once or maybe twice i saw it as i do it quite often, i will randomly think of someone from my past and have a little look online what they’re up to. But if he is consistently looking her up and also like you say falling asleep looking at her page i would definitely be having a conversation with him? i wouldn’t go in there attacking or questioning, i would just mention that like u moved his phone n saw she was on there, how’s she doing etc. By his reaction you’re more than likely going to be able to tell if it’s something he’s feeling guilty about so maybe something bad or if he genuinely doesn’t seem bothered that you’ve mentioned it, he may just be having an innocent little nosy at what she’s up to xx

Is it part of grieving. Does he feel guilty for blaming her? Does he wonder if she's doing ok because maybe he's still hurting? I'd guess their grief may be similar in some ways being so close to the man who passed away. Hopefully it's something along those lines and nothing else. I'd speak to him? Check in on him? He may be missing his friend? Honesty is always best. If it bothers you talk to him about that.

Omg im so nosy I literally look at the most random people, including exes, and I would be mortified if my husband thought I was doing it because it meant something. It absolutely does not mean anything to me - I am literally just bored and nosy.

if his friend died, it's probably just a grief thing. they are the 2 closed to the friend.

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