I have TOO much help… what should I do?
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Have Saturday for y’all and Sunday for family.
Never feel bad about how you feel it’s so important to have boundaries and to run your house and your kids lives how you see fit. Ofc it’s always nice to have family and friends and what not but sometimes it’s important to have time to yourself with just you and the baby or just you your baby and your husband. Don’t hesitate to tell people this week you’re not accepting guests or maybe limit peoples visits to an hour, etc.
I think it just needs to be balanced out and you need to set boundaries it’s your baby. So don’t feel bad if anything you will regret by staying silent and losing out.
We are on our 4th and by this time we absolutely love having this much help and family lol we get date nights trips weekends summers to ourselves which is important! I’ll say take the time when you need solitude and then pop back out when you wanna be bothered lol that’s what we do 😂😂😂
Take baby out. I’m out w the baby all day every day I’m a sahm that’s never home 😂 that’s how I choose to spend my days and that’s how you can get more time in w the baby. On the weekends I’m glad for the breaks and help. Take baby out, if they call say you’re not home coz you’re not
i lowkey used to have this problem and the only way to make it better is to say no you can’t come over on x day maybe come x day instead
Talk about first world problems 🙄
@Kellie how do you afford to go out every day?
@Rachel I pack a bento box for him. I have his Baby bounce session at the library 3* a week which that’s 0-18m and then turns into storytime for 3-5yr olds an hr later, there’s 2 mothers group I go to on other days, i might drop by the park or beach or friends/sisters house after, I also have a yearly museum and zoo pass so if I were to go to museum or zoo its free entry. Window shopping I’ll just walk around, I don’t really have the urge to buy anything I’m just happy to be out tbh. Get myself 2 sushi rolls and a coffee for lunch. Other days yes I’ll pay entry for playcentre and maybe a lunch w friend but that’s not every day. I just find free things to go I guess. For Xmas bdays If anyone doesn’t know what to get you and specifically asks, tell him yearly passes for zoo/museum or 10 pass playcentre/soft play places. I like experiences rather than stuff people who know me well tends to buy those.
Tell them you need a schedule so maybe each one visits once a week or something.
Become mama bear. It is okay if they think you’re selfish. That is a them problem. Smile and say “I’d like to hold ___” and don’t take no for an answer. Say no to some invitations, spend more time as a small family. If they want a baby they can have their own! If they want to help they can scrub your bathroom.
Be more assertive with your plans, people will get offended but tough, you are your baby’s priority to get to know. No one should stand in the way of that x
Just say no. Have days as an immediate family and don't see anyone else.
Just tell them no, say you already have plans 🤷🏻♀️ (even if those plans are to sit in your house and cuddle your baby all day, that's a solid plan 👌🏼)