Depressed & Lonely
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Hi there, sorry you feel this way that's really hard. I went through a hard few weeks of just feeling so sad , crying at everything and even had to take time off work cause I just couldn't get through the day. It is the loneliest feeling .. things that helped me was plan out the next day so I'm not in bed half the day staring at the ceiling. Reach out to your friends and suggest a coffee, a walk or something - it could be they are just so wrapped up in life . Best thing I did was I told my midwife I was struggling (I cried throughout my appointment) and she put me in touch with the perinatal mental health team. I'm just starting medication and counselling now. Please do feel free to message and reach out - you're not alone xx take care of yourself
Also like jodie said pregnancy classes can be helpful. I went to a class last week and was so nice to be around other pregnant women and everyone goes for a coffee after if you want . It feels hard sometimes to put yourself out there but sometimes to push through the fog - even something small can perk you up!
Thank you all for your responses, I will try and join a class and start planning my days a bit better. I'll also speak to a midwife at my next appointment.
If there’s an ante-natal class you could join in the run up to giving birth that can be a good way to meet a group of local mums going through everything at the same time as you. My group from first time round became my support group! And when baby does arrive you’ll be able to meet mums through local baby groups too, maybe at a library, children’s centre or church. You have something in common right away with your babies, so easier to make that initial contact.
We’re all in this together so please don’t feel like you have no friends! If anything, it’s amazing your husband is your best friend and I am sure he wouldn’t feel burdened. I had an absolute breakdown a couple of nights ago to my partner as I was just holding it all in and then something just tipped me over the edge and it all came out. He was amazing and cuddled me and told me to always talk to him about what goes on in my crazy little pregnant brain! Honestly, even just getting it off your chest feels like a weight has been lifted! Xxxx
This is really sad, why dont you talk to your midwife about how you are feeling? They maybe able to get you some councelling. I've recently done the done the same for anxiety. They sorted it within a week or two. Could you join some pregnancy classes? Im starting pregnancy yoga this week. Any work friends you coule chat to? Online groups on here within your local area I've seen people start up whatsapp groups and meets. Please dont feel alone, it is a stressful worrying time. Although i am surrounded by supportive family and a good support network of friends, i do feel lonely sometimes aswell. Feel free to message me x