Is this weird to ask for money towards it?

So it’s my parents birthday coming up. My mums phone is broken and she doesn’t use it much usually. So I suggested getting a phone as a gift. My sister and brother agreed. But my brother said he has a spare phone already as his son had Just upgraded to a new one. He said he would be happy to give if contribute £50 towards it, and my sister if she wants can also contribute £50.00 as it costs around £200 for a same model second hand one. But my sister doesn’t agree that we should be paying as it’s already a spare. They are not under any financial hardship as he’s got a good job and so has multiple members of his family compared to me and my sisters financial situation at the minute. My sister suggested he should’ve just said for us to buy the food /cake and for him to pass the phone over. I don’t know if it’s weird for him to ask for the money?

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He also said ‘just give 50£ if you want to contribute I’m happy with that’ But I’m sure if he sold it in the shops they would only give that much anyway? Or shall I suggest for us to get the cake and food and he can give the phone?

It’s annoying.. but you can’t tell him otherwise. What happens if you guys suggest splitting a new phone? Tell him if you’re going to contribute money, you’d like it to be brand new.

I would have said, seeing as it’s spare, why don’t you just give her the phone as a gift from you and we will get her something else. If that was my family I’d find it super weird but every family is different.

@Emma I just said if he can give it then we can cover food and cake etc. maybe I should’ve said this instead 🥲

I think your mum will appreciate the food and cake as a gift from you and your sister 💕

He doesn't have to give the phone away for free, however the total contribution shouldn't exceed the current cost of such model second hand. You can Google it and see. Otherwise what everyone suggests above may also work out.

@Emma I am having trouble with her as well 🙈 she agreed to contribute towards food if we don’t have to continue towards the phone which my brother agreed. But now she’s saying it was my idea so she doesn’t want to contribute towards food. And after is saying we should cook instead of buying…. I feel like saying come on?! My dad leant them 9k 15 years ago, which they were meant to pay back In a few years. And they haven’t paid a penny back. And she can’t spare 20-30£. Just so frustrating

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