Is "shhh" rude?

Feel like I'm losing my mind here, I'm quite sensitive to noise and when my daughter or partner are being really loud or making an annoying repetitive sound, I quite often just go "shhhh". Sometimes I will say "please can you stop doing that" if it's my partner drumming his fingers or whistling or something, but other times it's shhhh, mainly when it's just really LOUD. My partner keeps telling me it's rude. I just really don't think it is. I think shh is a very gentle way of saying SHUT THE F*CK UP which is what I'm actually thinking in my head šŸ™ƒ I can't help it, it's a sensory thing and my body tenses, it really gets to me. So help me out, is a gentle shhh rude? What else should I do? I try to ask them to stop if I've got it in me, sometimes it's just SO loud and I'm so overstimulated, shhh is the only option - my words wouldn't be heard anyway, and I'd struggle to say it "politely" so shh seems the better option to me. Or am I just crazy?
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I don’t think it’s rude. But if you’re doing it all the time, then maybe. Or depending on how. Like a gentle shh or a clear shhh like STFU is obviously what you wanna say lol I’d just ask him what would you prefer I say to y’all that’s nicer than shhh. And if he has no answer or explains it’s the way you say it then I’d keep it pushing. Also explain how whatever action he’s doing affects you

Think shhh is very polite compared what would tell my partner anyway

Honestly I think it’s a bit rude if you are doing it all the time sensory issues or not it’s not fair to make the whole house quiet because it’s what you want especially your child my child is loud and obnoxious too and some days I want to rip my ears off but he’s literally just existing I wouldn’t just be shushing him all the time sorry

I think it might depend on how the shh is delivered, I get migraines so I definitely use shh but it’s usually a quiet/soft one, because I want my son to match my volume level. Other things I do are if he’s tapping/banging I will gently place my hand on his, I whisper to him so he whispers back, or I straight up tell him ā€œthat’s too loud for mama’s head.ā€ I don’t know if I’ve ever done it to my husband though outside of a playful little shh when he’s being sarcastic etc. I might give him an annoyed stare if he’s banging around in the kitchen but he knows to tone it down if I have a migraine.

It really depends on circumstances and how often you’re doing it. If you’re always telling them to shhh then it’s probably a bit of an unhappy circumstance for them to have to live in your expectations all the time and quite honestly I’d feel like I can’t be myself and walking on eggshells. I have to admit I’ve never used the term shhh so I can’t really tell you if I’d consider it rude it just isn’t in my remit to use it so yeah, how you might be using it could probably be so

I think it comes across as rude, I know if someone did it to me I would be pissed. Much rather have someone say ' could you quitten down please' 'can we have silence for a while'. If the noise gets too much for you leave the room

If you can, walk away. Go to another room. Keep yourself busy doing something else. If you can’t get away and he’s doing that, then tell him to politely stop as he shouldn’t be drumming his fingers or whistling while eating anyway. But if you can, walk away. I do think it’s rude, yeah. My family is big, and loud, and when we get together I sometimes walk away and do my own thing and kinda ignore them, in my own world for a lil bit or remove myself from that conversation and go make a coffee or something and join in when I’m ready. I am a social extrovert but I don’t have a 100% social battery either. But to me shhhh is rude yes and I can’t imagine anyone saying that, you’ll need to find other ways to manage the oversensitivity

Depends how it's being us3d. If my partner attempted to get me to stop stimming I'd probably stop hanging out with them because I can't help my stims.

Shushing people is Extremely rude. Use your words like an adult.

it’s so rude especially with a bitchy tone my gma did this ALL the time when someone is telling a story etc. and she would completely ruin it with her rude ass ā€œSHHHHā€ right in the middle of it.

My view - ssshhh-ing a child is fine. Sshh-ing another adult is rude. It’s treating them like a child. I would be mad if someone Shh’d me.

My partner drums, chews his nails, hums, sings, whistles and does every conceivable annoying noise possible about 90% of the day. I lose count of how many times I tell him to shut up, sometimes to shut the fuck up. Shhh would be polite in my house. I usually just have to shout his name if I can hear him somewhere repeating the same section of a song he’s been singing over… and over… and over again, and he apologises. He knows how annoying he is though. I think you’re fine personally

It’s rude if used on an adult, but on I feel fine on children as you can’t really go into an in-depth discussion with them about how it’s overstimulating

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