Is there something wrong with me?

I don't have any friends. We moved to a new city two years ago and I still have not found any friends and the previous friendships fizzled out due to distance. I feel like I really tried, especially since having my little boy. I met up with a few women from this app and went to multiple baby groups, and even though I had some women meet up with me a couple of times for a walk or a coffee, etc., I feel nothing really came out of it.. baby groups are even worse, I feel every one grouped up and I didn't make a single friend. One example extremely upset me. I met up with a girl from this app, I thought we really hit it off, had so much in common like hiking, outdoorsy, etc. She seemed quite excited as well, talking about meeting up weekly. However that was 3 months ago and we met up once since then. Last time we met, again, she seemed excited etc and since then nothing apart from the fact that she added me on Facebook and a couple days ago I noticed she went for a hike, which we talked about doing together, with another girl. I just feel there must be something wrong with me, maybe people find me boring or do I talk about my baby too much? I don't want many friends, one would do, just a person that you can grab a coffee with, or go on day trips with little ones.. I don't know.. I just wondered from your experience, have you found any friends since having a baby and would you have any advice on what I might be doing wrong? At the moment, I just feel very sad and also frustrated, like I wasted all this time and energy for nothing...

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There is nothing wrong with you. Making mum friends is HARD! There’s a lovely lady I started chatting to on here months ago, and we are still to set a date to actually meet up. I feel like she must think I’m not genuinely wanting to meet up but I do, it just hasn’t happened yet. I have made myself go to a baby massage group where I met some mums that already knew each other. I was really keen to go for lunch with them and now they have adopted me into their mum group. I’ve had to travel to meet up with them but it’s been so worth the effort. Locally it’s been harder, baby toddler groups haven’t amounted to much. It can feel a bit silly putting yourself out there but you gotta keep trying. If you’re in the Warwickshire area let me know. I reply to messages on here but I’m not great at getting back asap. You will make new friends. I moved to a new city 4 years ago, and until I joined a local singing group last year, I didn’t meet anyone either. Keep doing what you’re doing 💝

I made friends off here when we were pregnant. I didn’t do NCT so I was actively looking for mum mates as I had no intention of doing baby groups. I found swapping numbers helped, not just the app. Making a date and sticking to it. I’ve made a solid few - we don’t meet as a group - but we go for coffee / wine / to another’s house / walks / the library. Some are less regular. 1 in particular has become a good friend - she had an August baby. There was 1 lass who sent me her birth pics and then she went awol - nothing. I think it can be hit and miss.

I moved to Melbourne in 2018. Granted childless but I’d go to the opening of an envelope to try and meet people - I just met the wrong people. Once i started attending things I loved back home in England I soon met my tribe. I also used bumble BFF to meet people and had some success there too.

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