Feeling alone

Hi Samantha! I completely feel you. I just recently have a newborn and while I only have one I admire people who have two or more because I struggle. I had my baby at 21 and I feel like a bad mom because my partner isn’t present and I don’t have time to take care of myself but I do have time to take care of her. But then I look at my baby and I see how healthy she is and then I realize I’m doing a good job. I’m a full time mom and student and I work part time. I don’t even know how I finished this semester because it was so hard once she was born but I did it somehow. I just like to think of my accomplishments like omg I got to brush my teeth today. Little things like that is what at least makes my day even if I cry at the end of the day I feel like that cry is what made me feel so good because I let out what needed to come out. We got this momma just remember the little things you accomplished throughout your day :)

I feel you...I have just one for now, she is very active 21month old and I am heavily pregnant with second...I have restless legs and arms, and wake up every day feeling so exhausted...I hope I will manage good, but it is really hard without village...I feel mentaly drained and physicaly...I also cry often

Omg, I feel I could have written this myself!! I couldn't put all of this in words to describe people around me how I actually feel. I have 2 little ones myself, they're 13 months apart (2 and 1 years old) and it is a real struggle. I'm always frustrated, and don't seem to have much patience with them at all. Even when I try they don't seem to listen to me unless I raise my voice and I end up feeling so guilty.. But I do have people that tell me how good they are and they are so nice to other kids so those times I think I'm not doing so bad. I know that this comment is not much of a help but just a reminder that you are not alone 💕

I’m in my 30s with a 2 yo and 11mo. And I feel like I could have written this. I just got on Zoloft for depression and anxiety and hydroxizine to help me sleep and it’s already helping some. Getting deeper better sleep has helped a ton! I’m talking to a therapist now but that’s not helping yet. I feel like talking to my friend helps more bc she knows me better.

I could have written this myself. I have been this way since my twins were born and it’s just now getting easier. This is going to sound so weird but, have you gotten blood work done lately? I had a vitamin d deficiency and low iron. Once I got onto supplements to help balance that my mood started to change plus added anxiety meds and therapy, I did my sessions over the phone. My blood pressure was also dropping all of that caused me to be on edge constantly. Through therapy the state of house stopped bothering me so much and I gave up control. The only thing I want to accomplish is one load of laundry a day, make my bed, and dishes. With kids your house will always looked lived in and you know what? That is completely OK! How you feel is completely ok as well and completely normal. Also the moms that have it together probably really don’t behind the scenes. You are not failing, this is just a season and it is ever changing!

I keep my house together, I shower, brush my teeth, and dishes are cleaned laundry is done and surprise… I’m constantly anxious and overly raging at my kids. I feel like a failure. Everything needs to perfect so I feel productive, it distracts me from them and that in turn causes my rage bc they’re in the way of me getting what I need to get done and I wish I could just slow down and enjoy them. The moms with the perfectly clean house and perfect appearance on the outside are not okay. It’s how I cope with the madness st home. Makes me feel like I accomplished something important. Everyone is like omg how do you do it?? I do it by ignoring my kids and screaming at them if they try to intervene. I’m a monster and I don’t know why I am this way. I wish I could ignore the chores and slow down.