Any stepmoms?

I’m not a step mum but I’m a bio mum whose recently had a soon to be step mum introduced if that’s helpful?

I am, I’m still new being a step mom but gladly love to be supportive for eachother

I’ve been a stepmom for 7 years. Feel free to message me💕

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I’m a step mom and it’s not always easy. Message me, I’m sure what you’re feeling something I can relate to

Been a stepmom for 12 years, I’m all ears mama

Hey girl! I’m a stepmom to an 8 yr old girl. I’ve been in her life since she was 4, and deal with a HCBM. Definitely hard to manage it some days, but some days are better than others. Having to deal with a HCBM is difficult too bc you have to basically do parallel parenting. We get my step daughter most of the time and are going back to court for relocation and full custody. I have to stay positive bc I have my two other babies and just keep myself aware that my other two babies shouldn’t have to go through what my SD has to go through with the both households. At the end of the day, you do what is best for YOU. Luckily my husband agrees with a lot of the things and how we raise my SD, so I only get support from my husband when we have to make certain decisions for SD. I try not to vent too much to family bc I just like to keep my business to myself, but every now and again I just vent to ky sister a bit about some things and that usually helps. Although, it is a lot of patience.

I always constantly have to remind myself that a lot of things are just out of my control. I struggle with differences in the way our house is ran and the way they run their house. Our values vs their values, and at the end of the day, there is always going to be a struggle because the step child has to navigate all of these different ways of living. I just focus on parenting my daughter and being just extra support for my SC. I do the best I can. I view it as…this is my child’s sibling, she is going to be who my daughter looks up to so I just do the best I can to instill the values that are important to me and hope that its effective. Sometimes I feel like I am paying for my husband’s actions prior to me, but I also feel like I am in my SC life for a reason.

Being a step mom is super hard. I am a bio mom and step mom. My bonus kids are my kids but there is a fine line. I do everything for my bonus kids and I am always there. But I have also set boundaries for myself.

I remind myself that this isn’t forever, the stepchild will only be a child for so long.

I’m a step mom and bio mom giiiirl hmu it’s a struggle some days but it’s okay

@Nathalie I just didn’t realize it would be this hard. I try my best, but I feel so drained. I love my boyfriend, but maybe I don’t have clear boundaries.

@Kel You’re right, I know I came into his life for a reason. But she says things to me like, “You were never there; you’re just there to watch him,” and it really gets to me. I try my best not to overthink it, but it feels like it’s always about her, all the time, and nothing I do is ever good enough. It’s exhausting trying to stay positive when I’m constantly being undermined. I just want Leo to feel loved and supported, but it’s hard when everything feels like a competition. I know I need to set boundaries, but figuring out how to do that without causing even more tension is overwhelming.

@Alexa Do you mind if I send you a message?

Setting healthy boundaries for yourself is very important. Speak to your significant other and let him know. Is not that you don’t love his child, But your mental & emotional health is very important. Everything I do is because I want to. Nobody forces me to do anything. I don’t communicate with BM, that’s my husband responsibility to coparent with her. I coparent with my husband not with BM. We have a very different situation and they only communicate via email. But we have very clear boundaries, our house, our rules. BM house is her house & her rules.

Step mom of two preteens for 4 years feel free to message anytime ❤️

I am a step-mom to 3 boys, have been for a few years now! Let's connect! 🤍

It’s not easy

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It can be super hard! Reddit has some great groups for step parents and I find that there is more support in those forums and some great advice. I agree with those that say boundaries are important. Be clear and firm about what is important to you while also being understanding & flexible. Its a hard adjustment for everyone. Each situation is different so I can only give general advice but feel free to DM me if you need anyone to talk to. It can be overwhelming, unrewarding and draining for sure. Its not an easy role… try to do the best that you can. Also, you are not a baby sitter.. you are not “just there to watch” someone’s child… do not over extend yourself at the expense of your mental health… sometimes it may feel like your efforts will never be good enough.. but hopefully your partner is supportive. Communication is key and it can take time to get to a place where you feel more at ease.💕

Pick an choose your battles, if it’s something that really bothers you, talk it out with a friend.

Balance is key. Knowing when to step up and when to step back. I have been a stepmother for 8 years now. If you have any more questions please feel free to ask.

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@Katherine not at all!!

It's hard some days, but u signed up for it. To love him and his kids. Love them to the extent they let u, treat them like u would treat urs, expect nothing in return, when frustrated with them, have a safe space to retreat for ur mental health sake.

Step mom to a 7 year old boy. Everyone's situation is different but you got a friend in me girl. No judgment over here