Regret

I hear what you’re saying. It’s okay to feel like that, I had my first at 28 so, I did also feel like I could have done more things before having my little 1 (a girl). I’m 30 now and pregnant again with baby no’2. I guess the thing is, sometimes life is unpredictable and we can’t depict what happens or what should go because things are always changing. You only can make things happen if you want it too but can’t force it. Hope this helps. 🙂💕

@Lorraine yeh I think because I’m 22 I see a lot of mates going out or planning weekend away or holidays and because I can’t do it anymore it gets to me from time to time x

@Rachel yeah I understand, I mean you can still just try meeting other mums, you can plan coffee dates or go for lunch something you both interested with. Mind me asking, are you with baby daddy? 😊 xo

@Lorraine yeh but he works so in my own with lo for majority of the time xx

@Rachel ahh I see. Sorry. He should try make some time as least. But as long as he helps also. 🙂 xo

@Lorraine he helps when he’s home but he works from like 7-5 some days so when he comes home it’s a rush anyway to go for shower and dinner and what not x

@Rachel ahh yeah it’s hard. Missing those times it’s understandable. You will get the time back. Maybe have other families/close friends help watch baby few hours, so you do something for yourself. Always good your looking after yourself too. Maybe when baby is a sleep, make that time. Hope this helps. 😇 xo

@Lorraine thank you really appreciate that 🥰

@Rachel no problem. 😇 💕

I had my first at 32 and second at 34, I wish I’d have had them in my twenties so I’d have had more energy! I also feel like I’d have had more life with them as I will be 62/64 when they are 30! Take it one day at a time, life still continues and you can still do stuff with the kids 🫶

I completely relate to this feeling and honestly it’s more common that you think too . At the beginning when I give birth I think I spent months crying and crying about my old life until one day I sat down and wrote things I wanted to do and complete and made a plan with my partner . As hardd as it is try and do things you did before just adapt it for example still get dolled up and take pictures, go for walks , join clubs - I recently joined a running and sip and painting club and it’s helped me find my identity a little bit again. Try and book a date night once a month and get a babysitter there’s a website called childcare you can find qualified babysitters near you and they can babysit for even 2-3 hours and it gives you time to spent you or you and hubby time together . And oh solo dates are also fun. I know they’re scaryyy at first but they give you a breather from the mum role .

@Vanessa yeh I think cause there’s a certain part of the year when a lot of us from work go out so much for birthdays and meet up but because nothing is like that for a while it’s lonely and everyone is working but I’ll definitely do that thank you xx

22 you’re still young so once little one is a little older you will find it easy to do so much more . Even holidays and staycations with babies isn’t as bad as people make it out to be . We took ours at 4 months and it was so much fun so I know it may not be the same as you were when you didn’t have a baby but trust me you will be fineeee❤️

I had my first at 19, split up with her father when she was nearly 3 months after a serious DV assault and all I can say is I get you girl xxx At the time when all i was seeing is my friends going out, having fun- I was stuck at home with a baby on my own, with no help from her father. 5 years on, I have a 5 month old with an amazing partner. I started to feel like "myself" when my first turned 2. Add me on snapchat, always up for a chat or rant! mariolaxxl

@Mariola added you xx

Your feelings are valid. I had my first baby at 20 and didn't get to carry on my studies, work, travel, hang out with friends etc. I felt guilty for feeling like I missed out and should have waited. But guess what! You get to do all those things now with your kids and make memories for them that when they look back they will say they got to do amazing things with their mom

i feel the same way, but the more i grow the more im glad i had him at 19 than later on, my son saved me from going down the wrong path of doing drugs and hanging with the wrong crowd. now do i wish i worked harder and saved up to buy a house before having kids ofc but i cant go back now and even if i did but had no knowledge of what i know now i probably wouldn’t be saving anyways.

@Isabela me and baby dad are both like that before I got pregnant we where quite heavy drinkers like every other week we where steaming and arguing since having the little ones and not drink wr have became a lot more healthier x

i had my first at 17 so i understand completely. it is hard but i wouldnt ever change it

I love my little boy but I wish I’d of picked a better man who would have been a great dad. I feel rubbish when I feel like this too, I don’t know how to overcome it but your not alone

Your feelings are very valid. I feel the same as a 21 year old mom to an almost one year old. I wish I would’ve had my life more tg for him and wish I would’ve done sm more traveling. But it’s all a season and one day it’ll get a lot easier. I do a lot of solo dates and just self care to make me feel better 😊 my mom always says enjoy them when they’re babies bc one day they won’t need us like they do now