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But how many times if its been broken? I would totally question it if its earned and the broken and then tries again, gains the trust and breaks it again.
I always use the example of a crumbled piece of paper, you can flatten it out as much as you want and crumble it as much as you want but I’ll never be exactly what it was when you first got it
How do I get past it? I one talk to the parties and trying to move past but it just keeps popping into mind like a bad vomit.
Yes but it's hard. People always talk about the forgiving part but never the RE forgiving part. You don't just forgive once and your body/heart/soul just follows. A lot of triggers will pop up and that's the RE forgiving piece that can be just as hard..if not harder. Also..some actions and repeated trust breaking don't deserve forgiveness.
@Elannah cheating and lying, but wasn’t physical or emotional, he let my SIL into our relationship and broke my trust with her because she was one of my safe spaces. He also borrowed money and told her not to tell me and they didn’t tell me I asked him if there was anything he was lying to me about or hiding from me. He said no . I found the text msgs in the deleted folder.
@Veronica we were working on trusting when I found the text msgs, that was my first time going through his phone. Same issue just found out later about this portion.
That would be so hard because he lied to you. Like fresh trust sure but when it comes to broken trust, regaining it will always be an internal battle.
@Veronica being 5 months pregnant, makes me question the relationship the baby everything. Then he has the nerve to say it’s annoying when the hurt comes back up and I pull away from him again.
Being pregnant makes it even harder!!! Not only talking about hormones but what was on those texts that would make that trust broken? I think that a broken glass will never be the same once put back together it will continue to leak. Trust is so sensitive, he might not say it was physical but why are those text in the deleted if he has nothing to hide. I am not trying to add wood to the fire…. But the fact that you are pregnant and you are not his priority its my concern. You should be his only focus.
Trust cannot be re earned in my experience. Once broken, there's no going back.
Yes. Just takes time, work and a lot of patience.
@Veronica I knew he texted her looking for me because I was ignoring his calls and message I was binge watching the rookie, so I knew there is going to be text message but when I didn’t see it in his regular message and it was deleted plus him letting her into our relationship then asking her to borrow money and to not tell me. She is my brothers wife and we life 3 door away from them. We agreed in the beginning of the relationship that letting the opposite sex into our relationship is cheating. I know it’s my SIL but it’s not.
@Fifi this is kind of how I feel, I’m just hoping somehow, one day I can trust him again but right now, I don’t but I’m trying to forgive.
Depends on what trust was broken how many times and person for me x
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With me, once broken there is no going back. It’s just how I am. You’re grown. You know better. That’s how I see it 🤷🏻♀️
I personally would say it depends on who it is and what they did
It depends on how it was broken in the first place. And how many times it’s been broken. But the answer is usually no for me.
Of course