Childcare

If you’re comfortable with it there is an app called Bubble where you can hire babysitters. You can view their profiles, choose who you’d like to hire, message them and even meet them beforehand. It does obviously add an extra cost to your night out though 😕

The obvious answer is if you have a partner, they look after the child. The other option I use is childminder that my daughter goes to after school, she also offers babysitting. As @Lucy said though, it’s an added cost you have to factor in. Thankfully mine charges the same rate as childminding and not £15+ per hour which seems to be the going rate for a babysitter. Or if you make any mum friends at baby/toddler groups or even at school, you could ask them to watch your child for a few hours if you trust them and reciprocate the favour when they need it too. Another option you could explore would be if you are good friends with your neighbours, could ask them. Or if anyone down your street has teenagers if they’d do it. Of course you would have to vet them yourself, but given they’ll just be watching TV whilst your child sleeps, most would jump at the chance.

Dad doesnt help and my child has high needs so finding a sitter is difficult

Sorry to hear that Incog. My friend’s daughter is also high needs and she has the same problem. No babysitter/childminder will look after her daughter because she wakes often and will want to play, whereas most babysitting gigs it’s expected the child will be in bed before they arrive and they’re only a presence in the house should an emergency arise. What about parents? Siblings?

Its really difficult finding someone And also money is difficult My mum has huntingtons disease ans my dad will help but hes also getting on and i know he struggles with it, and siblings dont help