Loneliness Vent

I’ve been feeling very lonely lately. I have 2 amazing babies (2y and 10m) and an amazing partner but the days feel repetitive and I have no one to really talk to. I feel like all of my friends abandoned me once I had my second child. I don’t know if they feel like I can’t go out anymore because I have 2 small kids or what but it makes me feel sad. When I try to reach out, plans always get cancelled or “rescheduled” and I end up not seeing them. The last time I saw my group of friends was for my oldest daughters bday back in late 2023 and since then it’s always been me that’s been trying to hang out with them but overtime it just felt like begging and so I stopped and I haven’t really heard from them since. I also feel abandoned by my “best friend”after I had my first daughter. We got into a fight because I told her she wasn’t being understanding about my new transition into motherhood and I haven’t spoken to her in what is now almost 3 years. I just feel very alone. I’m still young and there are many things I want to do like travel, concerts, etc but I have no friends. It makes me really sad.

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Hi, I just wanted to say I relate to you a lot I’m still young and had my kid young and it can be very isolating in terms of friends. I feel like they’re always doing something else and never want to hang with me and my baby. I’m sorry you’re going through this, you can always reach out to me if you want. But I just wanted to let you know you’re not alone.

I'm sorry and totally relate. I'm an older mom but the exact same thing happened to me. My friends were flakes even before I had a kid and now it's like pulling teeth to get any of them to hang out. Just like you said, it starts to feel like begging so I just stopped asking. I also relate to having no one to talk to. Other than my mom, who I have a rocky relationship with, most days go by with me mainly talking to my one year old. It is SO hard to have no one to vent to. Hugs mama. ❤️ Quick edit: I realized a positive you have going for you. You're young! In time, your kiddos will be more independent and you'll have more time to build friendships. I know it doesn't help now but that's something I cling to myself.

Consider sharewellnow.com postnatal support groups! Been a huge help for me and makes me feel like I am not alone in my feelings

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