Why some women who have family don't wish other women the same

I came across few women like that. One was pregnant , we were friends but not very close, I was single at that time, but always dreamt about family and kids...her pregnancy was hard and she asked me once if I want child, I said of course and then she moan is really hard to be pregnant and maybe I don't need this...it was years ago, but I still remember...anyway after she gave a birth we stopped talking...I had her on Facebook, and yesterday I send her message...she asked how I am...I said busy with my small family...her reaction was weird- what family ? I said it was my dream and single life is lonely...she replied that she understands me. Then she asked about work, I said that I left my job after having daughter, her replied just gave me shock...she thought I was joking about family...when I am nearly 40 and she is maybe 42-43...I thought she will be happy and will say something like - oh this is good you are not alone now, I am happy...bla bla...but I had impression like she wanted me to stay alone all my life... Other woman with who I studied , had husband and could not conceive for 5-6 years, when I told her I met someone and we want to have a baby, she replied that I should not...and I am the same age with her...after she justified like I should not rush and we should get know each other better...why some women like that ? I fish I had a stronger character to say is not your business what I do with my life...these comments are hurtful for me :(((
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It sounds like their reactions come from their own struggles or insecurities, not anything about you. Remember, your happiness and choices are yours to celebrate, and you don’t owe anyone an explanation. Focus on the joy your family brings you and surround yourself with supportive people who truly care. You’ve built a beautiful life—don’t let anyone’s negativity take away from that.

Playing devils advocate (don’t hate me). I have a friend that has said she wants a baby for years, to the point of unprotected intercourse with men she’s not in relationships. I’ve never said it out loud but she’s very irresponsible and unstable. Financially successful but emotionally immature. If she ever asked me to tell her honestly if she should have a baby, I’d say no. I’m also almost 40. It’s not that I don’t want her to have a family, I just want her to have a healthy one.

Misery loves company that's all. If they had great lives I am sure they'd be more encouraging yk. Such would like that you go through even worse than them and if you aren't it pains them. Jealousy also plays a part. When I got pregnant I had women tell me that their giving me (Insert time line) to me being single or being kicked out smdh ..I had 1 ask what about a man ..are you married?? (Because I keep my things private) then ff to after baby I had a few ask me "is there a father" or " I honestly thought you were a single mum" to now " oh wow so you're still with your partner the dad" and it just goes on and on. 🤔🙄 like they all expect you to be in shumbles or struggling like them or not happy like them and are shocked that you are just fine.

@Hannah I should learn not to pay attention at this comments and surely cut this people off from my life...but I really find it weird she was thinking I was joking when said I have a family , like I am super ugly or disable to find a partner and have a baby

@Leila you know I was severely depressed before having my daughter but I managed to look after her on my own in New born stage...without 0 help, I did everything...I can tell that occasionally I am emotionally unstable , but the main reason I am in a big city and without village...so it can be quite tough and lonely...my she definitely gave me a lot of purpose in life...and even emotionally stable women can become very unstable after giving a birth...so is very variable...

@Lav yea...I also notice that, women who is not so lucky with relationship they make this kind of jealousy comments like - oh, you still together...or you still have the same man...they want you to be the same with them...I had a friend , she was like my sister, I trusted her a lot...she was single all her life and she knew how much I dream to have a family...so when I met my partner and she could see I moving forward with him, she started to talk bad about him...yes, he was not ideal guy but I loved him and we both wanted to have kids...she was so ungry with me because I don't listen and ignore all her comments about this guy...now we are almost 5 years together, I visited his big family, they accepted me...this friend obviously in the past...I was good for her when was single but when I made a family she felt like a failure...she even cried once before I gave birth...because I will be so busy with my daughter and won't have time for her

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