In the thick of it ?

I feel like this all the time lately. I actually said to myself not long after the new year came in that this would be the year me and my partner break up 😂 We just have petty arguments and sometimes it feels like I have an adult kid aswell and I just can't be bothered to put up with it sometimes so I tell myself I'd be better off doing this on my own. But then we have our good days, and i see him with our son, playing and our son is always happy and smiling. He's a brilliant dad. And I think why would I ever leave just because we have petty arguments. If it was abusive and horrible then fair enough, but it's not. And it'd not worth breaking up our family for. Toddlers are hard. We also have a 3 month old now too so I totally understand the stress and pressures it can cause on a relationship xx

Yes constantly feel like this! Really struggling to be in a relationship atm. Most of the time I feel like I'm better on my own. I'm fed up of constant arguing, feels like my partner wants an argument a day. I'm so exhausted from it all as well I just feel so done. I witnessed my sister and her partner go through a hard time with there kids but literally did not know it would be as bad as it is and I had no clue having a child would put such a strain on us to the point I feel more hate than love towards my partner, I get easily frustrated and agitated by him too. I just feel like he asks me such stupid questions, it's like he can't be bothered to use his own brain he's not stupid he runs his own business. I love my son so much but I'm never having a child again the state of my relationship amount other issues I've had from pregnancy/having a baby has put me off completely! 1 and done!

@Rebecca this is basically us too!! I think it's difficult when you don't really get that quality time with each other either , you're kinda just mum and dad 99% of the time xx

@Luisa I totally get you. It's so difficult isn't it! I get the stupid question thing, it's like they're ears turn off when you talk then 5 minutes later they're asking you a question about what you've already told them haha. It's hard to know what to do for the best. I feel like this but also don't want to split our family apart. X

Yep exactly all that 👍🏼 drives me mad. I feel like he doesn't understand the toll having a baby has on your body either. I never know what's right to do anymore so basically given up. I dont want my family to split up either I see how hard it is, my partners brother had a baby 6 years ago and he's not with the mum and she actually lives in Hendon with their child so if his brother wants to see him he's got to travel 1 hour to 1 hour and a half to see him and to make things more difficult his new gf is now pregnant as well so he will see one of his kids all the time and the other not as much it's just sad. X

Honestly, kids put a strain on any relationship, but you just need to remember you're a team not against each other. It's so hard when you're in the thick of it, but it'll pass. Best advice i read was that everything in life is a phase, whether that's good or bad, and no matter the phase, it will always pass. I found it really helpful cause if we're getting on really well and in such a good phase, then i just remind myself that it won't always be this way and chances are a bad phase will come soon and that is literally just life! And there's nothing wrong with a bad phase! Everyone has bad days and this is totally OK. I think giving myself this mindset helped me to understand life as a whole and to not get so hung up when times are tough. If your family is safe & healthy then please don't worry about all the petty stuff, I promise it will pass! Sit yourselves down, have an adult conversation, make sure to not raise your voices to eachother, its amazing what you will communicate with eachother xx