How are people juggling nights/baby duties with partners?
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I do all night feeds and most the day feeds. However I do have some help from my MIL and I get to rest inbetween 6am-10am. My husband hasn’t had a pat leave as he’s self employed and wakes up at quite early, usually at 5am and gets home between 6-8pm. He changes her nappy / feeds her probably once a day whilst he’s working 🥰 try skin to skin with dad during his spare time and try get LO to spend the quality time (wake windows) with dad too x
I had my baby early so husband has been back at work for a while. He comes home from work about 6pm, we eat together and spend a little time together. I go to sleep at 8pm, he feeds her at 10pm and comes to bed 10:30-11 ish. I manage to get about 2 hours sleep which really helps make me ready for the night!
I'm combi feeding so my partner can give bottles of either formula or expressed milk. During his work week (so Sunday -thurs nights) I go to bed at 8/9 and he stays up to do one last feed at 11ish - then he's taking him from 6am so I can sleep a bit more. So I'm roughly doing 11.30-6am alone which for me amounts to 2 bottles although I'm also pumping and he basically gets a full night sleep. Then Friday and Saturday nights he does one of the overnight feeds as well. Also he works from home and is very hands on so the second he finishes work he's straight back into dad mode with both kids! He does bath and bed for our eldest most nights while I cook dinner
I do the majority of the night duties. My partner works mom-fri 8-4. I breastfeed during the night and if baby wakes him then he burps her before going back to sleep but I do my best not to wake him. He also helps if I struggle with anything during the night. On the nights where he doesn’t have work the next day, he is up with me and burps her after every feed and changes every other nappy. He will also get up and try to settle her if I’m really tired. He changed her nappy every single morning when he wakes up and every nappy before he goes to bed. I figure that I can nap in the day or have a slow day with baby whilst he’s at work but he needs his sleep to focus for work (he’s a senior scientist who runs tests on pharmaceuticals to ensure they are safe for human consumption).
We go to bed around 10pm and my partner does the final bottle feed and puts her to sleep on his chest (which she loves) so I can get around 1.5 hours of uninterrupted sleep before the night officially starts. When I wake up around midnight, I peel baby off him and put her in her crib, which she either takes to or doesn’t. He then gets to sleep uninterrupted (apart from stirring when the baby makes a noise), and I’ll do all of the night feeds and changes through to the morning. It’s been a really good system for the past couple of weeks, he’s back to work today so we’ve had to implement something similar for the mornings as well
My partner had just gone back to work too🩷 he is working 4:30am till 4pm so he’s up early, he wakes up to make the bottles in the evening/night time and I give them to baby and do the nappy changes, (formula fed baby) he sleeps through anything so he has no problem getting back to sleep at night😂🩷
My baby is 5 weeks, I do all the night feeds/nappies etc then my other half will get up around 6 with baby, do the school runs and I have until 8:30/9 when he starts work. He has also taken on more of the house keeping. I am breastfeeding and express for the morning. I didn’t want my other half to be shattered as well, one of us needs to be functioning. I do get the loneliness though, especially at night, my little one won’t really sleep in his crib, so he sleeps on me. I’ve been enjoying a bit of reading during the night. X
5.5 week old. Husband is back at work, he does bath and final feed of the night. Baby usually wakes up twice in the night (1am and 4/5am). Husband usually nappy changes whilst I make the bottle up, husband does first wake up feed and I do the 2nd. Weekends we tag team ❤️
I go to bed around 9ish and sleep until midnightish then he bring him up and I take over. And then he gets up with our 3 year old which can sometimes be at 6am 😭
With my first baby, my husband went to bed at 8pm and I did everything til 2am. My husband then did any feeds etc from 2-6am and then went to work. My baby slept for 3-4 hour chunks though which was helpful.
My partner has just gone back to work too. I do everything in the night (nappy changes and feeding), definitely M-F, unless I really need help with something otherwise I won’t wake him/ expect him to get up. On a weekend he will help with some nappy changes in the night and after work but I’ll do the bulk of it. We do also have a toddler so when he isn’t working he is helping with her a lot too. He does her bed & bath time every night for example. We did similar with my first although tbh I ended up doing 90% of everything, even on weekends, as I was used to doing it which wasn’t the best as I felt a bit burnt out after a few months. When I went back to work we had clear conversations about who does what so it was fair on us both.