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Hey! You can message me if you want! I feel the same way sometimes and it gets overwhelmingly lonely. I think you could use some support if you'd like. I can offer you an ear to listen and suggestions as my toddler is almost two with delayed speech, and like I said..I get it. The comment above me has amazing suggestions and advice. Please look into what we've said and remember that you're doing good. You're learning how to parent as you go. That's how it goes!
@Denise I actually have no looked into early intervention. And it’s scary to think about, being that its so negatively looked at in my household. But he’s very smart and he learns fast if he’s interested. Like for instance this kids singing show called Canticos on YouTube he learned to speak and say some things through them. But I will actually look into early intervention . Maybe it’s definitely needed. And collaborative play is only like 10-15 mins and I feel like he deserves more. And I have not looked into toddler library classes but I definitely will. Sounds like it would be a fun way of getting out for the both of us. As far as researching some home activities to stimulate learning do you have any websites you go to ? Or any social media that you use?
You're not a bad mom! I promise! Motherhood is an adjustment. Bring bilingual, it's possible that he's having a harder time coming up with words, but he probably understands a lot more than he's saying
Pathways is a good one! They have an app too !
@Danielle I never thought parenting would be so hard 😭 you’re literally teaching someone how to be a good person whilst learning how to remain calm 😭 I appreciate your comment 🫶🏽
Look into books on mindfulness to help you learn how to be mindful!
It seems like a lot of moms had such helpful tips. Somethjng that hasn’t been touched on was the phone/tv watching. I find myself getting very impatient on days I check my phone more and I keep seeing things about how it makes us more overstimulated and touched out when parenting or giving our attention to something else. Find things that interest you both. I’m my daughter learns through books a lot. But we even got her these baby and toddler boxes. I think on Amazon it’s called smart baby box. It has books, flash cards and more. Then they have the toddler box. But I def would get both. My daughter still uses both. It also helped teach me things to do and applying it to other books and teachings. The fact that you made this post means you’re a great mom because you care.
@Elizabeth He actually does understand a bit… sometimes and he speaks a lot of spanglish. But I could understand just not those around me. And it’s funny because I’ve been writing everything that was supposed. I truly appreciate your comment 🫶🏽
I feel this too, my son is nearly 20 months and isn't talking.... And he finally started toddling around last week Wednesday night 🥹🥹
We got speech and PT referrals both at his 18 months old 🥰 check up in late December
But I knew he was on the cusp of walking and upright movement. I've encouraged him a lot but I've never forced him to do anything, just lots of encouragement
Look into early intervention. My sister in law did this and now my niece is 3 1/2 and can’t say anything but no and won’t potty train As long as your trying your not a bad mom. As a stay at home home I had to have a lot of discipline on myself to stay off my phone. It was hard at first. But came to a schedule where during naps I’d do what I wanted and fridays he solo played and what ever but every other day of the week I was interactive and put flash cards on things and would read them and explain to him
Yea, the best advice I can give is don’t let the fear of judgement stop you from getting him the help he needs. Also, if you feel like your phone or the tv is a distractor, remove it from yourself. I set timers for when I can be on my phone sometimes if I feel like I’m abusing it. Keep the phone and remote in a totally separate room. I personally delete apps that are too distracting. It’s all about self discipline. I don’t have any websites off hand, because I get my research from so many places, but I also have a 2 year old and can give you more information on what we do if you want to pm me. At this age, it’s all about prepping them for preschool.
Give him more hugs! You both want them. He will feel more secure and confident to try new things if he knows you are there to comfort him when he messes up. Ignore the criticism, and follow your mama instincts! If you want him to learn shapes and colors, read books about shapes and colors. If you want him to learn right and wrong, read about right and wrong. Talk about right and wrong. He will learn best from your example. Lead with love. ❤️
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Are there any playgroups you can attend near you. To help with your sons social interactions and for you to speak with other mums with children your sons age. They normally have activities plans. For colours blocks are great you can sort them, ask to find the colour play a game can you find something the same colour as this blocks ie rubber duck yellow the same as the yellow block, you can also count them. For shapes a simple shape sorter toy same thing applies. Alot is learned through play so while your playing just make sure you kerptalkomg and keep him interacting. If he starts to cry because your playing with something he wants don't just give him it and walk away that will not happen In the real world he needs to learn you had it first he can play when your done.
I felt the same way! Sensory play has been super great for my daughter and I. It's new every day and it helps me understand how to play with her. And the sensory input is regulating both of us! Pinterest has all kinds of ideas. You're doing great mama
Have you looked into early intervention through your state? He’s 2 and guideline wise should be speaking 50 words. They SLP would teach you how to teach him. Every kid is different. You seem like a great mom because great moms care enough to even analyze themselves like this! Independent play is important and so is collaborative play and you’re doing both. Being on your phone or watching tv for you sometimes isn’t bad. Have you looked into toddler library classes? They usually offer lots of opportunities for learning. Maybe enroll him into a class at the ymca or another place that offers consistency. Also try having a routine with him and plan ahead what you want to teach. I take out time before the week starts to print out crafts and research different home activities to stimulate learning.